Interracial marriage: Your stories of the good, the bad and the ugly

Kenny Dornhoefer stands with his new wife, Jaya Ganaishalm, after being wed during a group Valentine's Day wedding in West Palm Beach, Fla. A Pew report finds that marriages between people of a different race or ethicity are at an all-time high in America.

A Pew Research Center report out Thursday finds that Americans are becoming more accepting of interracial marriages, and your stories seem to bear that out – most of the time.

Msnbc.com asked our Facebook followers to share their experiences of being married to a spouse who is of a different race or ethnicity, and more than 400 people responded. Most said they did indeed find more tolerance today among family, friends and strangers. But many also shared stories of stares and glares in public, disowning by family members and discrimination by businesses.


We feature some of your stories below. But first, a little background:

The Pew report found that marriage between races and ethnic groups has reached an all-time high in the U.S. Couples of different race or ethnicity made up a record 8.4 percent of all married couples in 2010, up from 3.2 percent in 1980. About 15 percent of all new U.S. marriages in 2010 were between spouses of a different race or ethnicity. The report also said nearly two-thirds of Americans say it “would be fine” if a member of their own family were to marry someone outside their own racial or ethnic group. In 1986, the public was divided about this.

Michael J. Rosenfeld, an associate professor of sociology at Stanford University, says the findings aren't surprising and reflect the continuation of a trend seen over the past few decades. 

“Racial intermarriage was very effectively suppressed in American society in the past, and so there’s still a lot of room to go up,” Rosenfeld said.

But Rosenfeld also notes that race is still the biggest “barrier in the marriage market” in the U.S. today – that is, people are much more likely to marry outside their religion or social class, for example, than they are to marry outside their race.

Msnbc's Thomas Roberts discusses the study with TheGrio.com's David Love.

“You’re still several hundred times more likely to be married to a black person if you’re black,” he noted.

In fact, the Pew report noted, interracial marriage in the U.S. wasn’t fully legal in all states until a 1967 Supreme Court ruling that deemed anti-miscegenation laws unconstitutional.

Here are some of your Facebook stories, some of which have been edited for length, clarity and style. You can read more of them on our Facebook page.

‘Long-legged blonde’
I am African-American and have been married for over 35 years to a fantastic long-legged blonde :-) We met in Cali in our 20s. Two kids and four grandkids. We are one in each other’s thoughts and minds. We never gave a rat’s ass what anyone thought. Before her dad died he told me that he could not have had a better son-in-law. It made me cry. I used to think he was a bigot. But he turned out to be my other dad. If you love someone don’t care what other people think. Live your life for you and your family. Thirty-five years and counting! Yes, we’re both over 55.
Dennis Ravy

Getting carded
I'm white, my wonderful, hardworking husband is black. We overlook the very obvious judgments that are passed on to us by people of all races. We live in a predominately white city. By the way, HE grew up here, as the second black family here, I did not. One very obvious example of our daily lives for us and our four now-grown children is this:

I use and carry my husband’s debit/credit card with me, because I do majority of the shopping. Mind you, HIS name is the only one on the card and account. When I use as a credit card, I never ever get carded, even though my name is quite obviously NOT David. Now, if he goes to use his own card at the same exact stores, they card him every single time! Go figure. So sad to me, but so true and relevant on what we go through over stereotypes ... not including, looks, stares, shaking of heads.
Brigette Riche Hood

Still a ways to go
I am white and Mexican though you cannot see the Mexican in me. My wife is black. We live in the Tampa-area suburbs not far from the biggest stupid Confederate flag in America. Our day care that we take our son to has lots of interracial kids. As far as problems, it has been mostly old people of both sides that you see looks from. Some young black guys once in Ybor City asked my wife what she was doing with me. But they were just talk. And we were at Busch Gardens once when there were two losers drinking in the parking lot with mud and Confederate flags all over their truck who said ‘gross’ as we walked by. When I asked what they said they started on some racial slurs. As bad as I wanted to drop them I had my 4-year-old with us so I just reported them. So, yes, things are better but still have a way to go.
Frank Mendoza

Marry your own race?
I am a white women married to an Asian man, and for me in my community people are very accepting of us. But when we go to Sacramento, Calif., where he is from, we get a lot of comments from other Asian people, usually people who are older, who think he should have married in his own race. I sometimes even catch his mom saying things about it, but it hasn’t caused us to view our relationship any different. We love each other and have a beautiful kid together and that’s all that matters.
Lorna Bryce

Not black and white
My son is biracial, born in 1981. When I went to put his race on the birth certificate they told me I couldn’t put two races on it, I had to choose black. I refused, they marked it anyway. When I registered him for school, it was the same thing. I refused to put just one race. It was tough back then. When I applied for his Social Security card, they point-blank made me mark black. I argued and told them he was white and black. I used to go look for apartments and had to leave my son at home because they wouldn’t have rented to me otherwise. I even had a landlord ask for the key back once he realized I was in an interracial relationship with a biracial child. Nowadays, (interracial marriage) is just common.
Shari Johnson

Jack Kurtz / Zuma Press

Couples gather on the steps of the Arizona Supreme Court for their mass wedding ceremony to mark the Valentine's Day holiday. A new Pew report says the number of interracial marriages in the U.S. is at an all-time high.

The look
My husband and I have always lived in South Carolina. In the 10 years of being together, I've had one negative comment directly to me. I notice people ''looking'' at us, if I look for it, but I don't ''look'' for it. There are places in this state you just do not go to if you are in an interracial relationship, or if you are black, period. That's one sad aspect of living in the South. I have received some ''surprise'' reactions that I'm married to a black man, but to us we are just two people in love.
Kelly Cope Browne

No loans
We were married 48 years ago. We avoided the South, especially Virginia. In fact, I have never been to most Southern states because it was so dangerous, lawless like Somalia today. That said, we never had any personal confrontations or incidents. On the negative side, local banks denied us loans, real estate agents red-lined us, and some restaurants gave us very poor service. Once someone dumped garbage on our lawn. But these incidents all occurred in the ‘60s.
Edward E Archer

Elephants in the room
I am white and my husband is black. We honestly have not experienced negativity. Our friends are OK with it (many of them have had interracial relationships). Our families are also OK with it and our church is OK with it (my husband is a minister). We don't even really get looks when we are out, most of the time I forget that we are even different races. He is my husband and best friend and I don't think about him in terms of the color of his skin. I don't go around saying "my black husband" and he doesn't call me his "white wife."

But we don't let our differences be elephants in the room either. We talk about them, joke about them, learn from them. Looking at us, it is obvious in what ways we are different, but on the inside we are so much more alike than just a glance could tell someone, so I am glad we have not experienced others judging us. Honestly though, if people did judge us, we would just go on about our lives and business. We know what we have and what those who want to judge must be lacking, so why worry ourselves about it? People can stand around and hate all they want; they will not separate us or bring us down. We are a team, and a pretty awesome one at that!
Jill Stoneburner Clark

Not so Nicely
When I was an undergrad at ISU in the ‘60s, a white, art student friend, let's call her Nicely, asked me to have lunch with her and her parents, who were visiting from Pennsylvania for the first time. I was a bit befuddled, as we were not particularly close, but I agreed, since she said she really wanted me to be there. So I showed up and had a cafeteria meal with two uptight oldsters who seemed excessively interested in me. We chatted for an hour or so, and then I excused myself, saying I had a class to get to. The next time I saw Nicely I asked her what all of that mess was all about. She told me that when she was in high school in Pennsylvania she fell in love with a black fellow and told her parents about it. They immediately had her committed to a ward of a psychiatric hospital. They let her out when she agreed to break off the romance and go to a good university out of state and never see the fellow again. Sad story, I said, but what does it have to do with me? Oh, she replied, you were my new white, upwardly mobile boyfriend for an hour or two. Thanks for your help.
Ron Hutchison

‘White Rice’
I'm a petite Thai woman married to a white former Marine. The ‘White Rice’ combination hasn't been much of an issue. His Texan extended family was great to me -- once I showed them I can pack a chicken fried steak and a Shiner in like the rest of them. However, I was surprised that his older coworker asked him once if he "rescued" me when he was overseas. He didn't sock the guy, thank God. I told him next time just say what I say, that we met at a go-go bar in Bangkok where HE was dancing. (All kidding aside, we met when we both were working at a dot com during the boom.)
OakMonster

Long tan
Give it 500 years and eventually everyone in the world will be tan, and racism won’t exist.
Ed Post

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Well said, Ed Post, although I was thinking maybe in 200-300 years instead!

    #1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 5:35 PM EST
    KATHLEEN15Deleted

    SPAM.

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    #1.2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:57 PM EST

    i said it before and i'll say it again...last time i checked there was only one race on the planet, the human race...deal with it.

    • 13 votes
    #1.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:16 AM EST
    Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

    DNA proves this is a lie we are not the same yes we have 92% of the same DNA but when the 90% of our inactive DNA is taken away whites and blacks only have 67% of the same DNA we are not the same get used to it.

    • 4 votes
    #1.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:53 AM EST

    Well said, and the Bible says in reality we are of One blood. If we share the same original parents, that is inescapable.

    • 2 votes
    #1.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:20 AM EST
    Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

    whispering New DNA research shows that yes we are all based on the same DNA, the DNA of homo erectus (an animal) but, when we turned into humans it shows that 12 original tribes where formed in 12 regions of the earth on top of homo erectus and each was different and all the changes could not have come from evilution because it all took place in a 100 year span. The blood line you talk about is animal blood not human blood and mixing returns us to the animal blood.

    • 3 votes
    #1.6 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:52 AM EST

    Robert, humans have always been classified as animals. Or do you consider yourself a vegetable or a mineral?

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    #1.7 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:08 AM EST

    Robert 180197* I like your "trip" (evilution).For that is truly what your heathenistic interpretation of humanity is.We never "turned into humans",God created us human.You are an aberration to the rest of humanity.There is some truth in certain evolutional theories BUT humanity is not a concern in these.Your racist inclination describes much of your "intellect".

    • 1 vote
    #1.8 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:27 AM EST

    Well, I see the KKK is trying to dabble in science now...

    • 5 votes
    #1.9 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:28 AM EST

    Sutraquio: Robert obviously does not understand evolution. He can't even spell it right. He does not represent the rest of us who actually know what we are talking about.

    • 5 votes
    #1.10 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:42 AM EST

    Shuklack- Robert no only doesn't have a clue about evolution, he's a worm didn't you know that??

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    #1.11 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:06 AM EST

    From this and the rest of his comments here, it appears he has some serious mental issues if he is actually being genuine - or if not, he is a troll with serious mental issues. He should seek help immediately, I truly am concerned for him and any family he may have.

    • 2 votes
    #1.12 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:14 AM EST

    robert, applying genetic studies between apes and humans as to this conversation ands trying to make it as the difference between the members of the human race is weak, lame, and more so....racist...go find that rock you pulled yourself out from under.

    • 4 votes
    #1.13 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:19 AM EST

    its almost funny the idea that people actually think we are different species or geneticly different. To Say that blacks and whites, or mexican and asians are different species is like saying one are dogs and the other are cats. but guess what, cats and dogs can't make babies together BECAUSE they are different species, UNLIKE humans who whether you believe the bible or evolution, we all started from one man and one woman and the reason that no matter the color of one's skin we love, laugh and learn... anything else is just fairy tales people tell themselves to excuse their hate. "Pride" is just a mask for insecurity.

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    #1.14 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:28 AM EST

    We never "turned into humans",God created us human.You are an aberration to the rest of humanity. Some truth in certain evolutionary theories.

    Really? And you question Robert's intellect. Pull your head out of the Bible and look around.

    • 1 vote
    #1.15 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 9:43 AM EST

    sutraquio Actually Robert had it scientifically correct.

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    #1.16 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:53 PM EST

    That "well said" quote from Ed Post on "give it 500 years" reminds me of the movie Bulworth, in which Warren Beatty states that what we all need to do is f everyone we can and pretty soon we'll all be the same color and it won't matter. Check it out.

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    #1.17 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:10 PM EST
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    Ed Post, I will NOT be tan in 500 years. I'll be dead and gone. But you still made a good point. :-)

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    Reply#2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 5:54 PM EST

    i think they are saying it will be more like 200 years...

      #2.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 9:42 AM EST
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      Evolution apparently started everyone off tan in the first place...

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      Reply#3 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 6:06 PM EST

      Yup. In 500 years homo-sapiens will all be a sort of beige color. That's about the only way we will be rid of racism, because there are still a bunch of ignorant red-necks in our current world.

      I am white, my wife is Filipino, my sons from a previous marriage to a white woman are each married. One to a Mexican lady and the other to a Japanese lady. We are quite a mixed family, but we live in Southern California. No one gives a damn about who marries whom down here. I would imagine if I lived in some southern state that has the Confederate flag flying over their capitol, things might be different.

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      Reply#4 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 6:25 PM EST

      I would rather see all human life end.

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      #4.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:54 AM EST

      Then Robert180197* Maybe that can start with you,your own personal preference! In reality,I think we had better watch you,'cause you might be standing near me! Ouch!

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      #4.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:43 AM EST

      Yup. In 500 years homo-sapiens will all be a sort of beige color. That's about the only way we will be rid of racism, because there are still a bunch of ignorant red-necks in our current world.

      I doubt racism will ever go away, we humans have a very highly practiced ability to find even the most minor differences and divide along those lines.

      If we're all brown, it will then be eye color. Or hair color. Or hair type. Nostril size. Nostril shape. Mouth shape. Moles, no moles, big hands, facial hair, jawline, eyebrows....

      It will be something.

      This is actually the case today in countries which to an outsider would appear very homogonous, internally they have all sorts of divisions of people based on slight differences in appearance that an outsider wouldn't even recognize.

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      #4.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:56 AM EST

      That's about the only way we will be rid of racism, because there are still a bunch of ignorant red-necks in our current world.


      Yeah, because as we all know, white "rednecks" are the only racist people on the planet.

      • 1 vote
      #4.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:19 AM EST

      (puts sunblock on neck before working in the yard) ok, i feel better now.

        #4.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:33 AM EST

        Jim its not who you marry that would be your problem in the south.

        You are a racist yourself, against white southerners. This is common among the northeast pricks and the left coast elitist.

        Your POMPOUS attitude might get you in trouble though.

        Of course we cant blame you; after all you are educated by the liberals and hollywood/NY jews form all your opinions for you through TV media they own. The ELITIST liberals are hell bent on portraying the south as hillbilles and/or the KKK and any conservative as well of course. They have been doing this since the 1700's.

        Shulack made a valid point........humans are racist and have been forever. People discriminate EVERYTHING about EVERYBODY. People discriminate against their own race. Blacks are racists too! They judge how black or light a black person is all the time.

        How fat, dumb or ugly counts too. Look at how pretty folks are treated vs ugly ones. Why doesnt anyone tackle that discrimination.

        People who marry statistically do better with folks that are from similar backgrounds.

        And most people do not have a problem with gays or interracial folks.

        Its the PROMOTION of their life style choices through TV propaganda as if they are training kids to recruit them is where the problem lies. MTV for example and teen pregnant mom crap.

        People want what is best for their kids/families and statistically gay or inter race will make their kids life statistically more problematic than if they stuck to the traditional ways.

        As usual the liberal propaganda has an AGENDA that has nothing to do with reality.

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        #4.6 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:25 AM EST

        You all need an "out group" to feel better about yourselves.

        Shuklack is right. Discrimination as a whole will not completely go away because some human beings never grow the hell up. And they are insecure. Thus they need someone else to put down.

          #4.7 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:44 AM EST

          Mandy everyone wants to make everyone the same and we are not the same it is the original tribes that do the greatest good, who saved the blacks from slavery the whites, if you really look at the world with open eyes then you will see the differences need to exist but so many want to kill then.

            #4.8 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:57 PM EST

            *not rant* I see why you are in such close agreement with Robert.You have a problem making a coherent comment.Your spelling is also atrocious.Go back and "read" your comment to Mandy.It makes no sense.Get back on the target subject and stop trying to use this space to show just your racist attempts at "supremacy".It won't work!

              #4.9 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 3:37 PM EST

              Yes differences exist, but you should like people who are different than you. People who can show you that there is a great big world out there besides yourself. You shouldn't hate them for being different.

                #4.10 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:18 PM EST

                Mandy I can tell you REALLY like the "licorice stick" LOL! Why don't you go eat one now!

                • 1 vote
                #4.11 - Thu Apr 26, 2012 10:42 PM EDT

                Your comment to Mandy was just wrong, it would be better if you didn't comment at all if you can't be civil.

                  #4.12 - Mon Feb 18, 2013 8:26 AM EST
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                  Ahhh...just think...the very same people who brought us laws prohibiting interracial marriage 50 years ago are pushing laws prohibiting gay marriage today. "Interracial marriage is an 'unnatural marriage'." We've all heard the "unnatural" line before, bigots.

                  When's the Supreme Court going to step like they did with interracial marriage and settle the score? Soon hopefully.

                  • 5 votes
                  Reply#5 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 6:27 PM EST
                  Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                  Is this why 67% of all IR births have to use immune suppression drugs because of the Rh blood factor is incomparable this is man playing god- period.

                  Research the Rh blood factor.

                  • 2 votes
                  #5.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:56 AM EST

                  Ahhh...here come the homosexuals...with their delusional suggestion that their unnatural, erotopathic behavior has some vague connection to the fact that humans have a beautiful variety of natural skin colors. You cannot choose your skin color, but you can certainly choose with whom you have sex - and bisexuals, by definition, choose to have sex with men AND women.

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                  #5.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:40 AM EST

                  Ahhh...just think...the very same people who brought us laws prohibiting interracial marriage 50 years ago are pushing laws prohibiting gay marriage today.

                  It is indeed virtually the same exact argument, and equally fallacious.

                  Is this why 67% of all IR births have to use immune suppression drugs because of the Rh blood factor is incomparable this is man playing god- period.

                  Lol what? You're so full of nonsense, go put on your tinfoil hat to protect you from jet trails and leave the conversation to the grown ups. 85% of whites (non-Basque) are Rh positive while 95-99% of blacks are Rh positive.

                  

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                  #5.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:59 AM EST

                  Well, since you're such an expert on blood explain to me why is sickle cell anemia found ONLY in blacks and no other race? Crickets, chirp, chirp.

                  • 2 votes
                  #5.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:15 AM EST

                  superfuzz. Its just more common in African and Mediteranian lines. Thats because to get it, you have to inherit it from both parents.

                  Its also seen in Middle easterners, central americans, and the caribean areas.

                  Sickle cell trait occurs in approximately 1 in 12 African Americans; 1 in 1400 Hispanics, and nearly 1 in 100,000 Whites.

                  Its just a trait, like blue eyes. If both parents have the trait there is something like a 25% chance the offspring will have sickle cell anemia. That is possible with whites. Just less common.

                  • 2 votes
                  #5.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:49 AM EST
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                  Jim..I'm with you. When we have a family get-together it's like a small united nations. We have our different colors, different opinions, snotty remarks, sweet memories but at the end of the day we are a family and we all have each others back. I would not trade my multicolored, opinionated, annoying and loving family for any "pure" version of mankind for one second of feeling of superior.

                  If I live to be a million years old I will never understand why skin pigment denotes character.

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                  Reply#6 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:04 PM EST

                  Skin pigment does not denote character. What makes you think it does? Maybe you meant ,connote.

                    #6.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:15 PM EST
                    Reply

                    Start the conversation: Multiracial Identity.

                      Reply#7 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:05 PM EST
                      Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                      I do not see Multiracial I see black and only black it is the one drop blood law one drop of black blood and it is black.

                        #7.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:59 AM EST

                        You have black in you robert, did you know that?

                        • 1 vote
                        #7.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:06 AM EST

                        I do not see Multiracial I see black and only black it is the one drop blood law one drop of black blood and it is black.

                        robert180197, your comments on this thread are pretty racist. Please stop.

                        You are suspended for a week for violating rule # 5 of the Code of Honor.

                        • 6 votes
                        #7.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:31 AM EST

                        Sorry Robert, these IGNORANT, UNEDUCATED, BIGOTS don't want the FACTS they want LIES and PROPAGANDA... oh, and a BIG, SANCTIMONIOUS PAT ON THEIR ASS for ALL to SEE and CHEER! HOORAY for the LYING, Do Gooders!!

                          #7.4 - Thu Apr 26, 2012 10:36 PM EDT
                          Reply

                          Start the conversation:

                            Reply#8 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:07 PM EST

                            I just did.

                            Tag. You're "it".

                            I don't need to have a conversation about multiracial identity. I'm living it.

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                            Reply#9 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:19 PM EST

                            My husband and I are in an interracial marriage. 21 years and counting. I never think about it. He's Filipino and I'm Puerto Rican. I have never felt that he is any different from me. My family has a history of interracial marriages. My aunt married a man from the Cayman Islands over 40yrs ago. My brother married a black woman over 30yrs ago, my son is married to a Mexican girl, almost 10 years, my daughter is married to a black guy, almost 2 yrs. Another brother is married to a Filipina. All of the above couples are still married, except for my aunt, who is a widow. I have countless cousins who are in interracial relationships. I don't see what the big deal is.

                              Reply#10 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:21 PM EST

                              When they use the word interracial they are using a euphemism for Blacks and Whites there is a stigma attached due to the slave history in the US between these two races. Ergo it wouldn't seem like a big deal to someone of various island descents because there is not the same historical relationship.

                              • 3 votes
                              #10.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:35 AM EST
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                              My dearest friend once told me that her family was a rainbow coalition and what a wonderful statement to make about her family. They are black, white, oriental, hispanic and good old american southerners. It doesn't matter when they are all together, loving each other the way we should be doing and the world would be a better place.

                              • 1 vote
                              Reply#11 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:22 PM EST
                              Comment author avatarZheng HeExpand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                              Yes, my family is also a rainbow coalition. It's so wonderful. None of us work, because we are too busy hugging each other and telling each other how wonderful we are. My grandmother from Falklands & grandfather from Midway Island are so cute. He suffers from dementia and says the craziest things, like, "if white people are so terrible, why does everyone want to immigrate to USA, Australia, Canada, etc. where white people are majority?" Grandmother kicks him in side of head and yells at him to shut up and eat his chittlins. Sunday we will film our family holding hands and singing, "Michael Rowed the Boat Ashore." Less than two weeks to go before our next checks come in thanks to those working stiffs. Direct deposit now, it was rough when we had to walk to the mailbox.

                              • 2 votes
                              #11.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 10:41 PM EST

                              Zheng He. Thats extremely inappropriate.

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                              #11.2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:35 PM EST

                              I think s/he misunderstood the previous commentator.

                                #11.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:16 AM EST

                                I think s/he is making a snarky comment bashing other races.

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                                #11.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:37 AM EST
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                                I'm pleasantly surprised to see nothing but positive comments! Way to go!

                                  Reply#12 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:28 PM EST

                                  I read a similar article earlier today with nearly the same title and the same photos and 2-pages deep of postings where people were not being nice at all, they were being ignorant and awful.

                                  Although I am still baffled that we would use the term interracial since last time I checked each ethnic group was not an entirely separate race from homo sapiens, you know humans. Its not like we are talking about marriage between homo erectus and homo sapiens. It actually bugs me a lot that people would comment about marrying within their race as marrying another human means you're marrying within your race, its not like Neanderthals are roaming around for homo sapiens to get hitched to. Last time I checked humans weren't actively trying to get married to Chimps and gorillas oh wait that would be inter-species relations.

                                  A recent study has shown that genetically speaking we are all the same. That the African continent has the largest genetic diversity and that as we move out into the Americas there is the least amount of genetic diversity. It found muslims with Jewish ancestry and Jewish people with various Arab ancestry, Italians with Germanic ancestry, etc. There is no such thing as a "pure race" and it can only benefit the overall human race if more people crossed ethnic lines for marriage and family. We really do need the genetic diversity that inter-ethnic relations will help bring about.

                                  Putting all the science stuff side I am all for it. I am all for positive, respectful, loving relationships regardless of ethnic and cultural differences. In all reality you can't help who you love and why should you try and fight it. All the BS and stereotypes will eventually die down in the coming years but its going to be awhile before a more tolerant societal norm is created from our youth as older and more narrower ignorant minds die off.

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                                  #12.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 8:03 PM EST

                                  Em

                                  Nate the bigot decided that positive comments were not the way to go, so he "contributed" #16.

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                                  #12.2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 10:11 PM EST

                                  JimmyShade Wrong we are not the same and DNA proves it we do have 92% of the same DNA but 90% of our DNA is inactive so that leave our active DNA only 67% the same.

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                                  #12.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:04 AM EST

                                  Robert, your numbers are wrong. At most, a human differs from another human by around 0.5% of our genetic material.

                                    #12.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 3:14 AM EST

                                    chris that is wrong totally wrong because I admitted we do have the same genetic material but the difference come in on which DNA strand is turned on or off (heck apes have 90% of the same DNA) and the new research coming from DNA says that when comparing ACTIVE DNA we are only 67% the same.

                                    There are more when I find them that are newer.

                                      #12.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:18 AM EST

                                      research coming from DNA says that when comparing ACTIVE DNA we are only 67% the same.

                                      The Aryan Brotherhood website is not a reliable source.

                                      • 3 votes
                                      #12.6 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:08 AM EST

                                      Robert, where are you getting your information? Thanks

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                                      #12.7 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:10 AM EST
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                                      Ted Kennedy & Bill Clinton both pushed diversity in marriages & life, but their children dated and married only white. The affairs of both men that have come to light; they only had affairs with white women. In other words, do as I say, not as I do. The comment about everyone will be tan in 500 years; well, there won't be humans on this planet in 500 years. I've traveled extensively throughout the USA & world (32 countries) and the most prejudiced against minorities I witnessed was in the Northeast USA & against whites was Hispanic areas of California and Southern Texas. Too many ignorant people on this planet. Saw a woman who was "offended" by a gift she received because it was Nazi. To ignorant to know the difference between a Buddhist Swastika and a Nazi Swastika. PC at it's best/worst.

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                                      Reply#13 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:34 PM EST

                                      Just because you don't happen to fall in love with someone of a different skin tone doesn't mean you're a racist.

                                      For example, I'm from NE Iowa... And I gotta tell you, there are a hell of a lot of white people there. I'm not going to specifically seek out an "interracial" relationship just because I support it. If I happen to fall in love with someone who has a darker skin tone than me, so be it. Its not like its a goal.

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                                      #13.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:38 PM EST
                                      Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                                      Love does not exist it is a lie taught by religion to control us our "love" is nothing more then animal lust mixed with codependency.

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                                      #13.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:06 AM EST

                                      robert, just because you don't have any love doesn't mean it doesn't exist. The ability to love, hate, or even deeply consider our place in the universe is what separates us from the animals.

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                                      #13.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:33 AM EST

                                      Love does not exist it is a lie taught by religion to control us our "love" is nothing more then animal lust mixed with codependency.

                                      lust and codependency exist, and if lust and codependency equal love... love then must exist since it is the sum of those emotions.

                                      Your argument fails, like pretty much all your comments.

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                                      #13.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:10 AM EST

                                      By roberts own admission his mother didnt love him for there is no love. Explains a lot

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                                      #13.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 9:02 AM EST

                                      Robert, if you believed that, you wouldn't be a racist.

                                        #13.6 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:52 AM EST
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                                        My first girlfriend was white and I am black. This was in San Diego in 1968. My wife was white also. I have never had a problem on the west coast so I guess it depends on where you are from.

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                                        Reply#14 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:45 PM EST
                                        Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                                        I think there is no greater sin a white women can commit I have absolutely no respect for any white women that goes black none to me they are evil.

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                                        #14.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:08 AM EST

                                        Oh look. Robert the little ignorant racist. Welcome to the 21st century bud. Get used to it if you plan on going outside into the world. Because the rest of us left your view far behind.

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                                        #14.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:38 AM EST

                                        no the political forces in the world has brainwashed the people and the worlds government will crash shortly then true human nature will take over because people will see the lies.

                                          #14.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:32 AM EST

                                          no the political forces in the world has brainwashed the people and the worlds government will crash shortly then true human nature will take over because people will see the lies.

                                          Quite the run-on sentence you have going, as well as disgreement in verbs, oh and lack of apostrophe for possessive noun, You're not very educated, are you?

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                                          #14.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:17 AM EST

                                          Shuklack, why don't you offer robert some sort of debate instead of resorting to insults and criticism. What are you, a F**KIN English teacher? If you can counter his argument, do it. If not, STFU.

                                            #14.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:38 AM EST
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                                            Interesting that in most black-white marriages the male is black. I haven't seen many the other way around but I know there are some.

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                                            Reply#15 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 8:08 PM EST

                                            There was a study on this a couple of years ago. Most, not all, white men that marry out of the race , marry Oriental women. It was not because of race, but was attraction.

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                                            #15.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 8:18 PM EST

                                            I saw a documentary style show a few years ago and I wish I could remember the name of it about black professional men and women and the black women were adamant they wanted to marry similar black men to themselves and that there was a shortage of black urban professional men for them to marry and they would only marry a white man as a last resort.

                                            I remember thinking to myself there isn't a shortage of well educated professional men why limit yourself to one ethnic group. But that is how the women that were interviewed felt and to some degree I can understand but it was odd to hear in their own words they wanted to marry within their own ethnic boundaries even being as well educated and successful as they are.

                                            As far as the marrying outside of my race...I would marry an Asian girl in a heart beat and almost all of my male white friends would too. I don't really understand it but there is just something about Asian women that is extremely appealing.

                                            • 4 votes
                                            #15.2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:11 PM EST

                                            Jimmy I know I didn't/don't limit myself! Life is short and my personal theory wait around for what? As far as being intrigued by Asian women I say go for it, why hold back?

                                              #15.3 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:49 PM EST

                                              Do you think that it could be because for about the last 20 years EVERY print advertisement, EVERY commercial, EVERY TV show, and now virtually EVERY movie will have a WHITE female paired with a BLACK male, NEVER vice versa. And we KNOW advertising works because if it didn't we wouldn't have the FATTEST, most UNHEALTHY SLOBS in the World from eating Fast Food which is advertised ad nauseum!

                                              • 2 votes
                                              #15.4 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:57 PM EST

                                              Thank you Rush. See the latest Sports Illustrated ad with blond woman wrapped around black guy. When white women grow up having seen for the last 20 years nothing but white women with black guys, they begin to think that that is the norm. Its called social engineering.

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                                              #15.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:37 AM EST

                                              Its called social engineering.

                                              Or art imitating life imitating art imitating life imitating art..... and it goes on and on.

                                                #15.6 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:20 AM EST

                                                Thats what the media elitist (jews) want.

                                                They have been promoting white girls with black guys for 30years. Social engineering- 100% correct. White women were their target, and they still have not figured it out-bless their blonde hearts.

                                                Why do the jews want to promote this? I'll give you a hint, jews use nepotism to control everything they can. If they can stick together as a group and divide other groups; in the end they win. White folks; in particular conservative white folks, are their biggest obstacle/threat to their agenda's.

                                                Look at TV.........who controls the media??? Who owns the media? Who are the most prevalent group on tv or works in TV statistically?

                                                And we all know jews like winning financially. Even if it takes 50-100-1000 years; that is what makes them so smart, their history and drive to defeat all other groups from a generational approach.

                                                They certainly dont promote jews dating non jews do they; in fact they have a REAL problem with that?

                                                This is also why jews are elitist liberals.

                                                They buy their politicians for their own personal reasons and use their liberal status as the cheapest PR firm representative on the planet.

                                                Yeah I'm filthy rich but i am a liberal, look at all i do, but they get kick backs from the liberal politicians they bought. Thats what rich liberals do, buffet is the worst, smart too , he followed the jews lead.

                                                They cannot afford to not be liberals, it makers them look charitable even though it is a PR scam to protect them from the jew media; it beats the hell out of telling the sheeple the reality of the situation because they are too stupid or uninterested to GET IT!

                                                • 1 vote
                                                #15.7 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:13 AM EST

                                                I think you're full of it.

                                                one of the most popular comedies on tv right now has a jew marrying a catholic.

                                                There are plenty of ads which depict women of color with white men.

                                                And not all white women are blonde.

                                                I think you're just pitching a bitch in order to pitch a bitch. Go do something useful.

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                                                #15.8 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:29 AM EST

                                                Mandy You are so wrong but to tell the truth on here will get you thrown off because they are deleting all posts that try to tell the truth and say this is wrong. This is the reason I believe only civil war and one race being the victor will happen truthfully I wish they would just start it.

                                                  #15.9 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:10 PM EST

                                                  Bless your heart,

                                                  I guess you think henry ford, walt disney and billy graham are all full of it too. There are many others who share my opinions, but the media owners easily destroy their enemies with mass propaganda.

                                                  Their power over the sheeple is stronger now than it has ever been. One day in the future when our demise is obvious and all the sheeple are still blaming who the media owners tell them screwed them; look at them, they will be doing just great, like the recent wall street scam, in fact it was their plan to come out on top no matter what happens to the country.

                                                    #15.10 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:12 PM EST
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                                                    #15.11 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:47 PM EST

                                                    Bless your heart,

                                                    Dont be cute, I live in the south. I know what your "bless your heart" bs means.

                                                    No Fake, I just don't believe that media controls people. I guess it might control small minded people, and you might think you are pretty smart to think that you can hide from it. I suggest that a tin-foil hat would suit you well.

                                                    Not rant: Tell me which of the following I said was wrong:

                                                    one of the most popular comedies on tv right now has a jew marrying a catholic.

                                                    There are plenty of ads which depict women of color with white men.

                                                    And not all white women are blonde.

                                                    Pretty sure those are all true there bud.

                                                      #15.12 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:21 PM EST
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                                                      I am Hispanic, but if you are to classify me by race, then I choose White-Caucasian. My parents were both white people of hispanic orgin. Yes, I have relatives who are tan and relatives who are whiter than the average white

                                                        Reply#17 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:03 PM EST

                                                        a p, why? What would be your reason for the choice?

                                                          #17.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:38 PM EST

                                                          Hispanic means spanish speaking. You are only hispanic if you speak spanish. Hispanic is not a race.

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                                                          #17.2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:48 PM EST

                                                          Allison, why not? Maybe because he wants to. He just wrote that his parents are white looking. I'm sure he probably looks white himself.

                                                            #17.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 10:50 AM EST
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                                                            Hey Nate...go back to the 1960's....you reject....I guess we had to have one piece of bigot trash on here!!

                                                            • 4 votes
                                                            Reply#18 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:04 PM EST

                                                            Make it 12. I'm worth 10. You are as ignorant of humanism as to think that all races are the SAME, historically. NOT.

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                                                            #18.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:17 PM EST
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                                                            We are the same with out our skins......we bleed, we laugh, and we cry.....We have no control over what color we are...why make it such an issue in life?

                                                            • 3 votes
                                                            Reply#19 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:27 PM EST

                                                            Nate-3941750 I have black friends . what would bother me , if someone i knew would marry a stupid redneck inbred like you .

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                                                            Reply#20 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:32 PM EST
                                                            Comment author avatarRushSeanAssKisserExpand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                                                            It's just a shame that very shortly the greatest race of all will be wiped out completely. The race that brought us the Rennaissance, Opera, Modern Health, Aviation, Computers, and the list goes on and on. When I go to Europe now it's already over run with Third World Mud People...pathetic!

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                                                            Reply#21 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 9:45 PM EST

                                                            Mud people? Are those the ones that drive there 4x4 in the mud? I hate them too they leave mud all over the road and it makes a mess on my Cadillac!

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                                                            #21.1 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 10:11 PM EST

                                                            Hope you never run for political office; there is just no place in politics for honesty.

                                                              #21.2 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 10:47 PM EST

                                                              You need to broaden your experience and go to China or Japan.

                                                                #21.3 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:15 PM EST

                                                                "Mud people" or "mud races" is a KKK term for non-whites. Now you know what kind of hood wearing coward you're dealing with.

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                                                                #21.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:42 AM EST

                                                                Mud People...pathetic!

                                                                RushSeanAssKisser, don't use old-fashioned racial slurs please, or new-fangled ones for that matter.

                                                                You are suspended for a day for violating rule # 5 of the Code of Honor.

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                                                                #21.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:45 PM EST
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                                                                This guy seems to be doing his job. Five dead and now a sixth and these flakes still do not get the message. He should have a promotion forthcoming.

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                                                                Reply#22 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 10:24 PM EST

                                                                The term, race, has no scientific basis. It is a term coined so people could differentiate between "their kind" and the "others," over whom they could feel superior.

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                                                                Reply#23 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:06 PM EST

                                                                After reading the stories from above...it is hard to dispute the parallels between the struggle for interracial marriage and same gender marriage...the stories of family rejection, social ostracism, bigotry, discrimination are painfully clear and yet the arguments against interracial marriage and same gender marriage remain the same...many, many gay people go through it each and everyday with no legal protection.

                                                                I am curious to hear what people who are in interracial marriages think about same gender marriages and the similarities they see in gaining acceptance from family, friends and society at large.

                                                                  Reply#24 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:27 PM EST
                                                                  Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                                                                  If my daughter brought a black man home she would no longer be welcome there if I could control myself because I would go off and there would be no one in the home.

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                                                                  #24.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:13 AM EST

                                                                  I hope it happens Robert. Maybe you'd learn not to be a trashy racist and learn to see past color.

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                                                                  #24.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 2:44 AM EST
                                                                  Comment author avatarrobert180197Expand Comment Comment collapsed by the community

                                                                  Dangerous Mind

                                                                  No I see the scientific and historical facts.

                                                                    #24.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:10 AM EST

                                                                    I see someone has gone on a little racist hate spree in this thread, posting as much ignorant hate as they can muster. I hope your daughter finds the blackest black dude she can find and I hope she has 10 kids with him and I hope they are the happiest couple ever.

                                                                    As far as historical facts go, people like YOU are what has been wrong with the world throughout human history.

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                                                                    #24.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 6:37 AM EST

                                                                    No I see the scientific and historical facts.

                                                                    It's quite obvious to just about everyone but the most uneducated moron on the planet that you wouldn't know a scientific or historical fact if it bit you on the ass.

                                                                    Yaknow when people look at you like you're some sort of baffoon with 3 heads whenever you talk, maybe even laughing at you..... maybe you should consider that it might mean that you should re-evaluate your positions.

                                                                    It's not the rest of the world that is wrong, it's you.

                                                                    • 1 vote
                                                                    #24.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 8:29 AM EST

                                                                    Robert I agree with you you are 100% right

                                                                      #24.6 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:45 PM EST
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                                                                      My beautiful adoring caring faithful Mexican wife of 18 years as apposed to the nasty cheating white American bitch that I endured for 13 years? NO CONTEST.

                                                                      • 4 votes
                                                                      Reply#25 - Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:28 PM EST

                                                                      This is so sad to me. I can't believe people are so desperate that they have to look outside their own race and what it comes down to, desperation. If you have all brown people running around in 500 years where will you find all the gas stations and quick marts and 7/11's and Dunkin Donuts for them to work??? Of course with 50 families in one house or apartment there will be a lot of houses for sale.

                                                                      • 1 vote
                                                                      Reply#26 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:07 AM EST

                                                                      It is really a shame that you have so little self esteem that you have to rely on the color of your skin to make you feel superior to others. Clearly, you have nothing else to offer humanity! AND of course this "offering" is worse than useless!!!

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                                                                      #26.1 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:21 AM EST

                                                                      We are, of course, all members of the human race.

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                                                                      #26.2 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 12:23 AM EST

                                                                      Want that is false science and even god called the Jews his chosen people it is just people who are brainwashed that believe the propaganda that we are the same because DNA proves we are not.

                                                                        #26.3 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 1:16 AM EST

                                                                        *Robert180197* I am truly beginning to wonder if it is safe for other people to be around you.I hope someone else is taking notice of what you are saying.

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                                                                        #26.4 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:59 AM EST

                                                                        Think of it robert with a concealed carry permit. That would be dangerous he could shoot himself if the foot. But then I feel we have no need to worry for there is a provision that refrains people with a history of mental illness to get a permit.

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                                                                        #26.5 - Fri Feb 17, 2012 9:09 AM EST
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