I remember my teen years as very focused and not confusing at all; of course, my generation's rules were very explicit and breaking them brought a lot more than a 15 minute timeout.

You're kidding, right?

cunical--when you were a teen, you could probably play a prank in school and get a swat and go back to class. These days, students are expelled, parents have to hire a lawyer, and if the student is allowed back in at all, psychiatric care is mandatory and they are sent to a "special" school where they receive rotten teaching. This goes on their transcripts, and they can have an amusing time getting into college.

Try carrying a pocket knife into a high school by accident. The same thing will happen. It doesn't matter if it was an accident--you still just ruined your whole life.

Try fighting back after being picked on for "being gay" (whether one is or not; typically, one is not). The same thing happens. It doesn't matter if you were being mercilessly picked on and shoved--if you hit someone else, you are gone.

I think that perhaps your teen years were so long ago that you haven't got a clue as to what life is like now for teens. So, mayhaps you should consider keeping your hazy memories of your own behavior to yourself?

Bean@home

cunical--when you were a teen, you could probably play a prank in school and get a swat and go back to class. These days, students are expelled, parents have to hire a lawyer, and if the student is allowed back in at all, psychiatric care is mandatory and they are sent to a "special" school where they receive rotten teaching. This goes on their transcripts, and they can have an amusing time getting into college.

Try carrying a pocket knife into a high school by accident. The same thing will happen. It doesn't matter if it was an accident--you still just ruined your whole life.

Try fighting back after being picked on for "being gay" (whether one is or not; typically, one is not). The same thing happens. It doesn't matter if you were being mercilessly picked on and shoved--if you hit someone else, you are gone.

I think that perhaps your teen years were so long ago that you haven't got a clue as to what life is like now for teens. So, mayhaps you should consider keeping your hazy memories of your own behavior to yourself?

Bean@home - Actually it is you who has no clue. Back in the day, there were no teachers getting involved with fights. If someone called you out, you got the crap beat out of you and nothing happened punishment wise. You had to go back to class afterwards with a split lip or bloody nose. Teacher just said go to the bathroom and clean yourself up. So maybe you should concider not talking about something you know nothing about. Today's kids are so confused by this new way of thinking with time outs and such that they have no clue how to process negative events in their lives. They grow up not respecting their elders because they know that if their parents layed a hand on them they would go to jail. So basically, kids today think they own the world. Thanks you the Parents of today for passing laws that took control out of the adults hands. Oh and p.s. counceling for kids is a joke.

what does that have to do with a 13 year old boy comeing up missing. It doesnt sound like he ran away. It sounds like something happend. That could be anything from a stranger abduction to an animal attack or maybe he fell or had an accident. we had a 15 year old here just last week that came up missing and it took 3 days to find him. I hope they find this child God help him and his poor family. I can only imagine what they all must be going through

Dylan had gone to his father's house Dec. 18 on the court-ordered visit.

Last year ?

seaquester i thought i was the only one who noticed the date - the newstories on this site are often incomplete and contain errors when it comes to vital information. Where is the proof reader? I hope the family finds their son.

This little guys picture is very telling. He has sad eyes. And also it appears he has strabismus which probably means he does not do well in school. That makes his whole life a little sad. How do I know that. It is family problem. We have had 4 people in our family with it and we are now just getting it under control. People don't have to live with it these days. But it does have to be diagnosed. Til then it can be a nightmare.

Today's kids are so confused by this new way of thinking with time outs and such that they have no clue how to process negative events in their lives. They grow up not respecting their elders because they know that if their parents layed a hand on them they would go to jail. So basically, kids today think they own the world. Thanks you the Parents of today for passing laws that took control out of the adults hands. Oh and p.s. counceling for kids is a joke.

That might be the case in your experience, but it doesn't seem to fit in this instance.

This is a young teenage boy from a broken home, an all-too-common situation these days. Too many parents seem to lack a responsible adult mindset of making life decisions based on what is best for their family, especially the children. Divorce can be very harmful to impressionable children, especially if it is preceeded by violence and/or psychological torment, adultery, drug or alcohol abuse, etc.

This was a court-ordered visit. Maybe the boy did not want to go but was forced to go. There is no information given about the relationship between father and son, but it doesn't appear unlikely that it might have been strained. His father left the boy alone for several hours, which says that perhaps his priorities were elsewhere.

The best way to teach children to respect adults is by modeling that behavior and treating your spouse and children with respect. Acting submissive based on fear of physical violence is not respect.

As for kids today thinking they own the world, in my opinion it's quite the opposite. Kids today are growing up with materialism as their primary value while their parents neglect them in pursuit of the almighty dollar, when what the kids need most from their parents is their TIME. Too many kids seem depressed and lost to me...hardly on top of the world.

ktlin60- Because he has a lazy eye he doesn't do well in school?? LOL, I guess i must be some sort of freak then- lazy eye here and it doesn't affect my learning at all. (three different college degrees with GPA's of 3.8. 3.9, and 4.0, all heavy in science and math)

Maybe biology wasn't your strong point- eye muscles are not exactly a determinant of IQ. (And no, it cannot always be "cured")

I so hope he is safe. I wish these judges would consider that if a child doesn't want to see the other parent maybe there is a reason. I hate court ordered visits, they are usually trouble.

Cunical, I assume your teen years were the 50s or 60s, as were mine. No, they were not as angst ridden as they seem to be today, parents backed up the teachers, kids were disciplined, first by the school then parents, when someone in authority spoke, we listened and obeyed, but yes, when an order seemed too far fetched, we were able to find someone to advocate for us. There weren't as many kid killings then either or pedophiles, but we were still warned about them. I even got the chance to put my parent's warnings to the test and passed. Today, too many kids are sheltered by their parents who think nothing of suing the school or school board over a perceived wrong done to their precious child. Kids are rarely taught manners or to say please and thank you. I am proud to say that I have an 11 years old grandson who is all boy and yet, well mannred. His parents get more compliments on how nice and polite he is and that translates to his well being as well. Children of diorce suffer more, sometimes, and it's a shame. Oh, did I mention that my grandson is also a child of divorce and my daughter and former son-in-law are co-parenting, they get along great, any disagreements they have are private and never divisive, just mild skirmishes like most parents have, but by and large, they are much like a standard, happy family, except my former SIL lives separately, but they have made it a priority to live close by so there will never be an issue of changing schools, or an ovenight visit that isn't on a weekend. All parents can do this if they work at it, and they don't have to work that hard. Just put the child's needs first, that's all. By the way, did I mention that spanking was okay in the 50s and 60s and it isn't our generation that is taking guns to school and shooting up places. No, it is the kids who belong to the parents of our generation who decided to do things differently.

ktlin60.......Is that a liberal disease?

@Maureen.....And people will acuse you of being a conspiracy theorist if one happens to believe that all of this a$$ backwards behavior, which is the norm nowadays, has been brought about by the global elitists in their attempt to destroy America so that they may more easily usher in their much coveted and sought after one world government.

Sea Quester

Dylan had gone to his father's house Dec. 18 on the court-ordered visit.

Last year ?

I was going to ask the same thing, this is either a typo or the author is psychic

The article specifically mentions a "court ordered" visit, rather than just saying that the child was visiting his father.

That specific comment implies that there was resistance from the child and/or the mother to the visit, and if the boy did not want to visit his father, at the age of 13, he must have had a reason.

Really, really hope I'm wrong about this, but the last time we had a side line seat to a court ordered visit of children with their father, it ended with the father murdering them and us finding out that he had been sexually abusing them.

If this boy indeed took off walking, he did not want to be in his father's home, regardless of the court order. The term "court ordered visit" disturbs me.

- Actually it is you who has no clue. Back in the day, there were no teachers getting involved with fights. If someone called you out, you got the crap beat out of you and nothing happened punishment wise. You had to go back to class afterwards with a split lip or bloody nose.....

Brenda1964, thanks for responding to one of the ignorant posters! You said it better than I could..

Why does Father leave son alone on Thanksgiving ?

Why does Father leave son alone on Thanksgiving ?

Dylan had gone to his father's house Dec. 18 on the court-ordered visit. Last year?

More examples of a poorly written story and / or incomplete information....

In my teenage years during the 60s/70s kids took care of their own problems for the most part.... after years of creeping political correctness and liberalism, a poor kid can't sneeze without having to see the school nurse or have to face someother overregulated procedure. The lives of kids today are much more complicated and sad than in my time...!

I'm guessing the kid read all the wild deviations below and just walked off in disgust with humanity.

Where is the Amber Alert? The child had "court ordered visitation" for Thanksgiving...but he would have missed a few days of school for this visit?

His mother said:

Elaine Redwine told The Durango Herald that Dylan wouldn't have left willingly and would have called if he were able.

The local news says the boy was last seen on Monday, November 19th? I assume the child arrived over the weekend so why did the father leave his son whom he hasn't seen in ? amount of time at 7:30am on a Monday.....for shopping? Did the father leave the child a note? "I'll be back by 9:30, etc..." Or did the child wake up to an empty house? and didn't call his mother to ask "where is Dad?"

http://www.9news.com/news/article/301071/188/Search-for-missing-boy-continues-

Why does Father leave son alone on Thanksgiving ?

If you actually read the article, it said *Monday morning*.

Which was either last wk, or the reporter is psychic, b/c today is Sunday.

W/ the bad reporting, I'm going to assume the brother mentioned either has a different father, or was old enough to refuse to go, as he doesn't seem to have also been there.

Either way, it bears the ques to me of why wasn't a 13 yo kid en route to schl at 7:30am on a Mon, instead of hanging at Dad's? I don't know of any schls that give the entire Thanksgiving wk off, just Thurs & Fri.

Even if Dad turns out to be legit, were you implying that a 13 yo is too young to be left home alone for a few hrs? Or that even if it was on a holiday, a parent can't run out to the store w/o taking a teenager along?

If that's the case, then I should be doing time.

Of course, ppl didn't treat teenagers like they were infants when I had kids.

When I first read this article I was going to post, but decided against it because of how poorly written it was. However, since I saw posters questioning why he wasn't in school I thought it might be a good idea to interject the fact that not all schools only give Thursday and Friday off.

Most schools had the whole week off for the week of Thanksgiving...at least the schools out where I am do. It could very well be the same there. From my understanding school schedules are approved yearly and by county in our area. It has become more commonplace that with the amount of time off during the school year, many parents run out of vacation time by the time summer hits.

Anyway, back to this article...I don't like the fact there had to be a court order for the boy to visit. That doesn't seem right. I hope the young man is found alive and well.

As for the person that wrote this article. The writing is shoddy and the information provided is lacking. Court ordered Thanksgiving visitation...December 18th....Monday November 19th...7:30am for a few hours. I really hope these poor articles are not being provided by paid "professional journalists" and or paid "professional editors" because most of the stories I have been reading online have been very lacking.

screm, I thought the same thing exactly. Why did the court have to order the visit? Because neither the boy nor his mother wanted it? And if so, perhaps they had good reason for feeling that way.

What the heck was dad doing spending "a few hours" away from his son who only gets to visit on holidays? I think you are barking up the wrong tree; although, he may have been trying to get BACK to mom after being abandoned by dad!

Dad Abandoned his son in his own home? Yeah, that makes sense. I don't know why dad was out, then again, neither do you. If you are suggesting that some people in this situation don't have problems following orders, then you are willfully blind. While we are at it, why did a judge have to ORDER the visitation? Are adults not able to figure that out for their own children now? Or was someone getting in the way?

Me? Barking up the wrong tree? Maybe, but when you stand in a forest with lots of "trees" that don't do what they are supposed to do, it is a forgivable mistake.

Might I add, that I would be happy to have him found safe, regardless of the particulars.

"What the heck was dad doing spending "a few hours" away from his son who only gets to visit on holidays?"

Ummm...how about working? It was Monday the 19th. The kid was there for Thanksgiving WEEK. What was dad supposed to do hold the kids hand and take him to the bathroom with him when he goes?

What if the dad had to run some errands and the kid did not want to go? Could be anything. How many 13 year olds do you see velcro'd to their parents?

The kid is 13...not 3!

Lighten up!

It was a Mondy morning, maybe dad had to go to work. Depending on the dad's work situation he may not have the luxary of taking off. And it didn't say dad only got to see him on Holidays it just said that he was with dad on a court ordered visitation which, by the way, is standard with any divorce/separation situation. There is always a court order in place which specifies placement, custody and the non-placement parent's visitation. It's not a bad thing, it acts as a guide so there is no confusion as to when and how long the non-placement parent has their child(ren). People are always so quick to assume the worst just because of how the new words things.

She said Dylan’s father Mark Redwine said he last saw his son at around 7:30 a.m. Monday, Nov. 19, noticed he wasn’t around at around 11 a.m., and reported him missing at around 4:30 p.m. that day.

Father was running errands and the son did not want to go, he wanted to sleep in.

Taken from Pine River Times newspaper

QE137--it is dad who claims that he left the boy in the house for a few hours. Someone else saw the boy walking 20 miles away. Yes, dad might have abandoned him alongside a road and left him to walk "home."

Yes, all visitation is court-ordered in the case of a divorce if the divorcing parties do not agree to joint custody or jointly agree to a custody arrangment. Court-ordered visitation is pretty much standard.

In some states, leaving a 13-year-old alone for an extended period (and we have no idea if the man is telling the truth about how long he was gone) is a crime. In other states, it is legal if they are over 8 or 9 or so. I don't know what the law is in that particular state, but I wouldn't leave a 13-year-old unsupervised for hours, especially a boy, without expecting him to get into mischief. I'd be calling him every 60 minutes, personally, to make sure he wasn't into too much mischief.

Of these, the most likely explanation is that the kid and dad got into a fight, and dad dumped the kid off, and he is walking home or to a friend's house. Kids that age typically don't walk 20 miles on a whim.

I hope that he didn't accept a ride from someone--that would be bad. I hope he is found at a friend's house soon or that he walks into mom's house, tired after his walk. No, you don't leave a 13-year-old alone in a house. You either check up on him frequently, or you leave him with a relative, or you leave him at a mall where mall security would be controlling the situation. Thirteen isn't 16; there's a substantial difference.

Try reading the story Bean, he wasn't 20 miles away from the Dad's home. He was seen walking in Vallecito, where the Dad lives, which is 20 miles NE of Durango.

Seriously Bean@home? 13 year olds shouldn't be left home alone? 12 is the usual age when kids start babysitting for other younger kids. Most daycares won't take kids over the age of 12 because it is assumed that by that age they are mature and responsible enough to take care of themselves for a few hours.

...or you leave him at a mall where mall security would be controlling the situation.

If dumping children at the mall alone isn't criminal, it should be. If you believe that mall security is a viable choice in child care, you are capital C Crazy.

Wants to know

What the heck was dad doing spending "a few hours" away from his son who only gets to visit on holidays? I think you are barking up the wrong tree; although, he may have been trying to get BACK to mom after being abandoned by dad!

Kid is 13 years old, I was babysitting at 13. There is no child abandoned by dad going on. Child was asleep so dad took care of errands while he slept. Sounds like you have issues with Fathers. Bean, the kid was 13, most kids spend time alone at that age, not sure what planet you grew up on, but on a place i like to call earth, if you cant be alone at the age of 13 for a few hours, something is wrong.

There is too much we don't know. Court ordered, since the article didn't mention it, the 13 yr. old didn't want to be there. His solution, go back to mommas the only way he had (with his thumb). I just hope the wrong person didn't pick him up!

If dumping children at the mall alone isn't criminal, it should be. If you believe that mall security is a viable choice in child care, you are capital C Crazy.

I agree. At the local mall, I've seen packs of young teenagers left on their own for hours. Most of those kids are responsible and don't get into trouble, but others do goofy things like shoplifting, smoking, hooking up, vandalizing and littering.

No caring, responsible parent puts his /her vulnerable young teenage (or younger) child into a situation where they're easy prey for pedophiles and the bad influence of their less-mature peers. It's a recipe for trouble.

It's irresponsible to dump your kids where they can be victimized and where they can all too easily get into trouble. Good parents know better, and those who don't shouldn't have kids.

There is no way I'd have been allowed to hang out all day at the mall, unsupervised, when I was a young teen. And I'm glad I wasn't. I'm grateful may parents cared enough about me to protect me from my own childish immaturity and from the designs of those who'd have done me harm, given the opportunity.

If dad had to work, he should have left kid with mom and had his visitation another time. While I was left alone at home at that age, it WAS my home...not just a place I had, by court order to visit and was probably not comfortable. PLUS it doesn't sound like dad DID have to work. Just wanted to be away from the kid for some hours.

Is that what happened to you Don?

That's a very good question and you just have to know the police are looking into where the father says he went very closely.

Why dose any parent have to leave the house from time to time? It is also not that unusual for 13 year olds to spend some time in a house alone. This situation could have been any number of things. I still think this case will have a good ending.. Well.. For the boy anyway...

I agree with Carolyn.. Why would the father go away for a few hours? I think he has something to do with it.. Look at the statistics.. The boogeyman lives with you 86 percent of the time!

I don't know what this world is coming to.. I pray I am wrong and the child shows up

Considering it was a Monday, and dad left at 7:30am... I'm going to venture a guess here... now this may be crazy... but maybe he had... a job?

According to post #2.5, the father discovered the boy was missing at around 11:00am, and reported it at 4:30. It was over 5 hours before he reported the boy missing: why?

Kimboboy: The boogeyman lives with you 86 percent of the time!

Since the Mother was the custodial parent and the child lived with her, by your logic the Mother would be the boogeyman.

Since we're all coming up with 'hypothetical' situations on what happened, here's one that hasn't been mentioned yet.... Mother, who disagreed with the court order, knew Father had to work for a few hours that morning. Mother, who believes the court has no right to tell her what to do, goes over to Father's house after he leaves and takes son.

As far as your "look at the statistics..." In most cases of a custody dispute it is the mother who takes the child and flees jurisdiction, not the father.

Wouldn't we all hate to be the parents of a missing child... for more than 1 reason. Besides the terror you feel for your missing child you also know everyone is thinking you killed him/her. Try not to judge with no facts, people. Put yourself in this man's shoes.

And I cannot believe none of you ever left your 13 year old home alone. Jeez. It would have been a miracle if I could have convinced my 13 year old to run to the grocery store with me (unless she wanted munchies).

Good gracious, so many trolls, so little time. It must be the Sunday morning Troll Parade.

I sincerely hope this young man is found soon and well. I have no idea the circumstances of his disappearance, but 13 is a difficult age. From what little I get from the story, his visit may have been against his will. I can ponder all sorts of scenarios, but that doesn't get him found any sooner. Let's hope he is discovered quickly, and he can tell us what it's all about.

Considering it was a Monday, and dad left at 7:30am... I'm going to venture a guess here... now this may be crazy... but maybe he had... a job?

Of course the father has a job. So why didn't the boy go visit him a couple days later, closer to Thanksgiving, when the dad had time to actually devote to being with his son? Why was the kid there at all, and not at home with his mother, if the dad had to go to work?

I don't think it's a great idea to leave a 13-year-old boy (who perhaps doesn't get along well with his dad, who perhaps did not want to be there at all) alone for several hours. You leave kids of that age alone on the basis of the individual child's demonstrated ability to handle being left alone. A boy who was ordered by the court to go spend time with his dad during a family holiday, a time when he might have been angry and resentful at being forced to go, a time when might have missed his mother and brother, is not in that category in my opinion.

It totally amazes me, yet by now I predict it when I read a thread of this type, how so many of you just know what happened to him, his life story, his parents' motives, and can judge his father for leaving the house for a few hours when he is 13. We have no idea if he really wanted to be there, why he went walking, what his father was doing, or what happened. You know, making up stuff doesn't help anyone and it doesn't mean anyone's theory is right just because it happened to you or a neighborhood kid,

This boy is missing and hopefully they will find him safe. Meanwhile would it be possible to hold off pronouncing that we all know this or that happened until those who actually have some facts investigate the situation? There are many variables here, and unless you were with the boy as he was walking you don't know what happened any more than I do. Patience....

Or maybe it is written for the Christmas season since the writer said it happens in December..lol.

ram, finally somebody who makes sense. Everyone is so quick to jump to conclusions about what happened to this poor boy. (he must not have wanted to be there, court ordered visitation = bad, how could dad have left him home alone). I swear most of the people posting don't live in the real world or know anyone who lives in the real world.

kaybeetoys - do you think mom wouldn't have had to go to work? Or is it just okay for mom to leave the kid home alone and not dad?

rakrak71

kaybeetoys - do you think mom wouldn't have had to go to work? Or is it just okay for mom to leave the kid home alone and not dad?

Since it was a Monday morning, yes, the mother might well have had to go to work. But the boy would have been with his brother at least and not left totally alone Was school closed for the week? Where was the boy's brother, and was he older or younger? Where there are a lot of unanswered questions, people are going to speculate. It's human nature to ask questions.

Another question is why did the father wait for several hours to report the boy missing? The father said he left the house at 7:30 AM... had he actually seen the boy before he left, or did he just assume the boy was asleep in bed? Did the kid possibly leave the night before?

Katbeetoys, there were plenty of times where I was off school but my parents still had to work. A week of for thanksgiving, 3 weeks of for christmas? Yea, real jobs don't work that way and kids are going to get left home for a while. Seriously, why are you even making this argument?

Now he probably didn't report it right away because who just sees their child isn't home and calls the police?

Idk. People are always looking for the worst scenario. As if this could never happen in your life.

Katbeetoys, there were plenty of times where I was off school but my parents still had to work. A week of for thanksgiving, 3 weeks of for christmas? Yea, real jobs don't work that way and kids are going to get left home for a while. Seriously, why are you even making this argument?

This boy was ordered by the court to visit his dad in another town. It's a holiday and his mom and brother aren't there with them. It's not your standard family scenario.

Idk. People are always looking for the worst scenario. As if this could never happen in your life.

We are discussing the disappearance of a 13-year-old boy who has been gone for nearly a week. Nobody has to go looking for the worst scenario.

This boy was ordered by the court to visit his dad in another town. It's a holiday and his mom and brother aren't there with them. It's not your standard family scenario.

BS, that's the case with almost every divorce family with children. You are taking this "court ordered" phrase as this evil thing, but any time one parent has custody, the holiday visits with the other parent are officially "court ordered" They are a legal agreement with the court.

And in almost every divorce, there is acrimony. Kids have a double emotional struggle dealing with divorce on top of adolescence. Why send only one child to stay with his dad on Thanksgiving? If there is any holiday in America that is spent with groups of family and friends, that is the one. Could the parents not have behaved like grownups and brought their whole family together for the holiday?

You don't think the fact that this visit may have been forced on the boy has any bearing on his disappearance?

What is your theory then, Mandy?

Why send only one child to stay with his dad on Thanksgiving? Could the parents not have behaved like grownups and brought their whole family together for the holiday?

So, you, an uninvolved person, gets to decide the terms of their divorce? You have no idea what the agreement was.

You don't think the fact that this visit may have been forced on the boy has any bearing on his disappearance?

So children now get to decide anything they want? There are LOTS of things that kids may be "forced" to do. If he didn't want to go to school and disappeared from there would you still be saying the same thing?

980 BC, and the neanderthal that wrote it had a problem with deciphering the hieroglyphics.

Pathetic journalism.

Smartest reply thus far...thanks Diane! :)

I was babysitting at 13, it would depend on the level of maturity.

@TMJ

That isn't the issue - that a 13 year old can't be home alone for a few hours.

The issue is - if it's a court-ordered visit and the child will only be allowed to visit for a short period of time, why is the child being left?

If it's a short visit and the parent doesn't have time to visit with the child, then decline the visit and allow the child to remain in the custodial parent's care.

What sense does it make to have a child for a short visit and leave the child alone for a few hours? One would think that every precious minute would count and would be used for VISITING.

Torcots - because people have to work. Maybe dad didn't have the luxary to get off work, maybe he was running some errands and the kid didn't want to go. I would imagine if the child was with mom she would've been working and the child would have been home alone at her house.

@Tortcots-2851476

You don't have children do you? The court dose not give you dispensation to stop working and thus stop paying child support just because the NCP has the child for a short time. Parents still have to work and still have responsibilities that they MUST perform on a regular basis even when they have their children for a short time.

There are some that say the Dad had errands to run.. Errands or having to go to work, you chose, but life goes on regardless of custody time and issues. Many cases, fathers have so little time at all with their kids because they have to keep working to keep up with support.

We simply do not know for sure, but if I had a dime for every time a custodial parent broke a court order, i would be rich beyond belief. There still is a chance for that to be what it was.. Mom just came and picked up her kid in defiance of a court order. It also could have been any number of other really bad things that happened.

No, the court ordered is almost always because there is a problem with one or both of the parents not being able to agree, or 1 parent getting in the way of the other parent's visitation. At 13, a court WILL listen to a child's wishes and will generally NOT override the wishes of a 13 year old.

Exactly Srich, but, let's all hope and pray that another sicko has not went on a bender in Co. and the boy is found safe and sound.

He was not 20 miles away, the town they sited in the story was 20 miles from the town he lives. If you reread, the road he was spotted on was in the town his father's house is. The way the writer wrote this was confusing.

Thanks, I skimmed it myself : )

Expressing religious beliefs and or suggesting prayer is THE #1 surefire way to get ones self picked on in a comment section.

I totally understand your post leroy; we are on the same page in this matter. Katy

Leroy, why do you think you have the right to judge a father you don't even know? He is more likely to love his son than to have harmed him. When a teen goes missing, the most likely scenario is that the kid left the home willingly and will be found safe at a friend's house or just wanted some time alone. With no evidence in any direction, it's wrong to make assumptions. Don't make assumptions based on other old cases that have nothing to do with this one.

And by the way, I don't know any boys named "Dylan," and the boy's name has NOTHING to do with anything. Your comment just shows you have a biased agenda.

The "biased agenda" being what, to ban the name "Dylan"? Or court-ordered visits? Or court-ordered visits for those named "Dylan"?

I agree that the child's name is irrelevant. So, too, is the phrase "biased agenda" in reference to that post.

On a side note, does anyone name their boys anything BUT "Dylan" anymore?

Say Leroy the No. 1 name today is Liam and Dylan comes in at No. 27

Lol, I guess i just know a lot of people who went with Dylan. Sorry if I offended anyone! A guess is not a judgement, Redmoth, try to learn the difference.

Nothing wrong with saying how it seems to you Katy, I feel the same way and I hope we are wrong.

I agree. The father waited for over 5 hours to report the child missing. That fact alone is very suspicious to me.

That's the part I don't get. . .the whole 5 hour "waiting period" before reporting the child missing. Other than that, nothing seems out of the ordinary to me. Guess we'll just have to wait until the investigation results are in and/or the child is found. I do so hope it is the latter that occurs first. Be careful out there, Dylan!!!

Brenda I think you are a little confused. Back in the 50s and 60s when I went to school, we were not allowed to fight. If we got out of control we were sent to the principals office which was embarrassing. No one brought stuff they weren't supposed to to school, and we respected each other. All the years I went to school no one was kicked out for fighting. WE didn't have fights. Noone was allowed to disrespect the teacher. We didn't do it. We have a couple who may have flunked some classes but that was the worst thing that happened. Over the years teachers became afraid of looking bad when students failed so they started dumbing down classes and accepting behavior because of involvement of spoiled brat parents. They should never have lessened their standards because now it doesn't seem they have many at all. When kids can take knives to school or guns and plan to use them, we have a problem. And unfortunately that problem usually starts at home. Who would allow their child to have a knife that they could accidentally take to school, or a gun? I guess an irresponsible parent or a missing one? If kids misbehave at school how much do you to want to bet they also misbehave at home and get by with it?

@ktlin60

Everything that children do in public isn't necessarily because they are allowed to get away with it at home. Consider Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold. Look at what all they brought to school and their parents didn't have a clue.

@Katy Katy

I'm a little suspicious as well re: the dad. I'm wondering if it's a court-ordered visit, then why wasn't the father visiting?

Why did he need to leave at 7:30 in the morning? Another poster suggested that, perhaps, the father had to work. If he had to work, why didn't he say he was working? If he had to work, then why not decline the visit until he could give Dylan his full attention?

And, as you pointed out, if the dad was running errands, what errands do people run at 7:30 in the morning? And, I'll add, why couldn't the father specify what he was doing at 7:30 in the morning?

Where could Dylan be? I frankly believe the father knows exactly where Dylan is and that he's the cause of Dylan being wherever he is.

"Consider Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold."

Another Dylan! See what I mean?? Lol...

Yes, sometimes parents do things to kids. Many times they don't, though, and since we don't have all the facts I don't understand assuming the father did it or he was walking home or whatever else one's imagination might conjure up. Who knows? Only the boy and whoever, if anyone, else is involved here.

@Tortcots

The father left the home at 7:30 because, although it's only 20 miles away, it takes almost 45 minutes to get to Durango from Vallecito Reservoir. Twisty, curvy mountain roads where the average speed limit is 35 to 45 miles an hour. If he arrived back home at 11:30 that means he left Durango around 10:45, leaving him only 2 1/2 hours to run all his errands. Probably the dad didn't make a grocery list until his son arrived on Sunday and he found out what Dylan's preferences were. He also might've wanted to get Dylan's input on movies to rent because there's no cable out at Vallecito. Also, Dad could've figured a teenager on school vacation was going to sleep until at least 10 AM and that would be a good time to go stock up on supplies for the week.

You don't know any facts!!! Stop jumping to conclusions!!!

Hardware stores normally open at 7 AM, many grocery stores at 6. Why not get there before the crowd and be back in time to make the kid brunch?

It's plausible. But now I'll admit that my first reaction to the story was that the dad may have gone out to dump the body. :(

What errands to do starting at 7:30am that took until 11:30? (He was NOT working.)

I can think of a ton of early morning errands. Getting gas, coffee, breakfast, work supplies, & dropping off kids at daycare tops the list, followed by grocery shopping & big box store shopping.

Some ppl just like to get all that crap out of the way so they don't have to do it later. Like, maybe a father w/ a teenager visiting who thought that running errands whilst the kid was asleep anyway was a good idea.

Who runs errands at 7:30am when most businesses do not open until at least 8 and some not until 9 or 10.

Do you live in the middle of nowhere that you even need to ask that?

Convenience stores, Walmart, & many ATMs, gas stations, & supermarkets are open 24/7. Go off-peak, no crowds, no lines, in & out.

The ones that aren't open 24/7 open at 5-7am, when ppl start going to work. Home improvement stores incl there as they have to be open for contractors to pick up supplies; it's when they make the most $.

Target, Kmart, Kohl's, Michaels, most other big boxes, open at 8-9am.

It's malls or sm businesses that don't open till 10am, but those stores have employees who begin arriving at 9am & need to run errands on their way b/c it still beats doing it in the evening when stores are at peak.

What errands to do starting at 7:30am that took until 11:30?

I'm always amazed at how much time I waste in stores that I only went into to buy 1-2 specific things. I could EZ-ily waste 4 hrs on errands & not even notice.

Last Mon I went to 2 supermarkets for Thanksgiving shopping & to return some items to Kohl's, it took 3.5 hrs, & all 3 stores were in the same plaza just 10 min from home!

Part of that is b/c they make supermarkets so damn huge these days & have perfected the art of periphery stocking....which means you have to walk from one end to the other & therefore pass everything in btwn just to get bread & eggs. No more little A & Ps w/ produce, deli/meat counter, bread racks, & dairy cases all cozied up next to ea other as soon as you walk in.

I could see 4 hrs to run errands.

the whole 5 hour "waiting period" before reporting the child missing.

Could be the kid has friends there, since it said his mother had recently moved away from the area. If he left a note saying he was off to so & so's house....could be the father saw no reason to panic until later in the day.

Read more carefully. He was NOT seen 20 miles away from home- he was seen in the town where his father lived which is 20 miles away from Durango(not sure why we care about this fact but apparently the writer found it pertinent). It could have been a block away from his father's house for all we know. Also according to this article we are not sure if this happened last year or if the 'journalist' was drunk and confused when he wrote the article because he thinks it is now December.

Congratulatons rmb22, your close attention to detail along with your excellent reading comprehension skills have turned this article into a complete flub for the largest majority of it's readers. LMAO!

May ALL Dylans be safe and sound and all have a very merry Christmas!

Lol! I think your "Dylan debt" has been paid, leroy brown! (In the eighties, it was "Jason". I wonder how many Dylans have dads named Jason?!)