I agree Mary. Good one

Arranged marriages in todays society are for A-Holes that nobody in their right mind would marry. I hope she finds somebody here that treats her with respect. Lock this guy up with some real prison men and he will learn "manners" on his knees........

I think HE should be forced on a plane out of the country.

If you 'hook up' with a Muslim or a middle easterner expect this kind of treatment. Women have less value to them than livestock.

Wake up ladies, this isn't the first case of this kind of nonsense taking place.

Throw him in jail and let him get raped for a few years, then kick his ass out of the country.l

Mary, he is not ACTING. He IS a moron. :D

I see you didn't go to collAge

jakester-2264183

I think HE should be forced on a plane out of the country.

Agreed. And drop him out of it halfway to the Republic of Macedonia.

Macedonia is in Europe, and its a majority Christian country. Also he's American.

Tired of It, Macedonia is not a Muslim country. Get an education first before you spout bigotry.

jakester-2264183 he should be forced out of the plane over the country, with no parachute.

Ummmm................I don't know who's dumber, the perp or some of these posters.

It's a shame how some women get brainwashed to continue being loyal to an abusive husband.

You know, like the ones that are physically abused, beaten and raped yet, they seem to come back after the husband "promises" to never do it again. Probably because the husband brings home the check. I dunno...

I'll bet my paycheck that the Father in-law also sexually abused her and maybe this is why he also wanted her out of the country.

They have the husband but after they question her further, we'll be reading about the husbands father also going to jail. They're both a POS man...

On another note:

Collage= the art of making pictures by sticking cloth, pieces of paper, photographs, and other objects onto a surface

Yeah, I caught onto that one. LOL

I really do not see ANY connection between his college education and his egotistical and arrogant personality! WHY do YOU think there is some sort of connection??????? YOU obviously did NOT go to college and appear to know NOTHING about college!...

It's a shame how some women get brainwashed to continue being loyal to an abusive husband.

I asked a very intelligent, charming lady friend of mine the same question once - she had had no reason to stay with an abusive husband, and yet she did. She just said "There's no explanation. It made no sense, but I did."

I would guess that it might because women tend to be givers and they are willing to take pain and abuse for themselves if it still means a secure home for their children. I don't really know, though.

Capt .. Tracy ...

Unfortunately there are no room for FACTS in BIGOTRY. But nice try guys!

Byron and Creek - my guess?

believing it's better than being alone

believing that the next man you find will be just as awful or maybe worse

believing that you deserve it

or you're just as rotten and abusive and horrible as your husband

and then, I think there are those who delusionally believe this abusive awful man just needs a woman to fix him, and they'll die trying.

I have a friend who married her husband because every boyfriend she had kept getting progressively worse, and she figured she would marry this one because the next would be worse. As you can imagine their marriage isnt just awful for them, it's awful for all their friends...but what can we do? I have not witnessed any physical abuse, but mental - absolutely. he's a spoiled little brat in a grown mans body, who throws temper tantrums at weddings and work parties, and flips out on her friends for no reason, and sometimes is a pretty fun guy - bipolar indeed! and she's slowly disappearing from us...not physically, but emotionally. it's terrifyiing to watch, but none of us want to chase her away by telling her that her husband is slowly killing the woman we always loved, from the inside out.

Someone has to say something before one of them ends of dead. Years ago a temporary employee confide in me that her husband beat her. She said he would come in from work and punch and hit her until he got tired and usually fall asleep afterwards. He was always sorry and of course promise not to do it again. She said she felt like killing him in his sleep, but was so afraid he would wake and beat her worst. She said his mother abused his father so she couldn't tell them and she did not have any family. I encouraged her to leave and go to a shelters but she didn't want to put her children in a shelter. I said if you do not do something the cycle will continue to repeat itself and she may kill her husband or he may kill her and her children will end up in a shelter anyway. I advised her to leave for own her safety and that of her children. She did not return to work the next day and I never saw anything on the news so I do not know what happened, but I hope she made the right choice.

there's a deeper darker story here.

Histrionic Personality Disorder...Google it, read about it then be amazed that you never heard about before

Jessica, sounds like he had malignant narcissistic personality disorder; That's in the psychopath family. I was in a long-term relationship with one once...

What a stupid headline! Why include that he was a college student. It's like when you read it it should go COLLEGE STUDENT followed by maniacal music and then the rest of the head line.

TraceyS - "tired-of-it" didn't say Macedonia was muslim. The woman was from there, and they married there.

They implied Lirim Rufati was muslim even though he is listed as American. People, please read with comprehension before you try to bust someone's balls.

Meticulous

You need to read the article again and comprehend, before you act a fool and name call. I believe your own personal bias is not comprehension or even understanding of this article. Many religions and societies still have arranged marriages. Either way, who cares what his religion is if he was abusing his wife. If you are trying to imply he is Muslim and that is why he abused his wife, get over yourself. Many a Christian cop, business man, etc.... has abused his wife or women. If you are going to call Tracy out for challenging stupidity, be accurate not ignorant!

If men (and women) were either all bad or all good, our choices would be easy. Some people tend to look at the good qualities and ignore the bad. In the specific case of this article, I wonder if she stayed out of fear and threats. Thank goodness for her friend!

I do not condone the abuse. However, perhaps his wife's story will serve as a warning to those who want to gain US citizenship via an arranged marriage of convenience.

hikeinmts, perhaps you should go back and re-read the article. It says he IS an American so he probably already knows about American justice.

An arranged marriage? Does she get deported?

Yep, even criminals has a price tag. It costs the citizens of Cali an annually of 47k to keep criminals locked up.

Note to self: Never date anyone whose neck is bigger than his head.

His wife is not his property, unlike Macedonia

Perhaps you might want to learn a little about other countries before spouting ignorance. Wives are not viewed as "property" in Macedonia. Yes, there are some women's rights issues (but there are in the US too!).

In fact, according to the Social Institutes and Gender rankings, Macedonia was fifth out of 86 countries in women's rights and had taken huge leap forward since the rankings started in 2009.

Macedonia’s Family Law explicitly provides for equality between men and women within marriage and family relations.^[8] The Family Code states that parental authority and the custody of children are to be shared by the mother and father, who have the same rights and responsibilities.^[9] In practice, women remain primarily responsible for running the home and raising children.^[10] Women in Macedonia, FYR, have the same rights as men to pass Macedonian citizenship onto their children.

http://genderindex.org/ranking

That doesn't make the guy any less a jerk, but let's not put down other countries just because of ignorance.

uhhhhh - the article- for those who can read- says his home country is the US (It says he's an American) HIs wife is Macedonian. So, where do we send him? But I do agree, he doesn't look- or act- too bright.

Always funny to read judgmental comments from peoples who obviously can't read a simple news article.

Yeah, you tell him mikey, "Go back to your country!"

This is a GUY thing fueled by religion. It doesn't matter if it's christian, muslim or whatever women are viewed as PROPERTY and are supposed to bow down to men and do whatever they want.

Deuteronomy 21:10-13 describes how a soldier can force a woman captive to marry him without regard for her wishes.

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 requires that a virgin woman who has been raped must marry her attacker, no matter what her feelings are towards the rapist. (Now you know where Akin and Mourdock got their belief about rape.)

Deuteronomy 24:1 describes the procedure for obtaining a divorce. This can only be initiated by the husband, not by the wife

Deuteronomy 25:5-10: states that if a woman is widowed, she would be required to marry her former brother-in-law.

Exodus 21:2-4: A slaveowner was permitted to give a woman to his male slave as a wife. There is no indication that women were consulted during this type of transaction. After serving six years, he would leave, but his wife and children would remain slaves of the slaveowner. Again, there is no indication that the woman was consulted on this arrangement.

Exodus 21:7: A father could sell his daughter as a slave. Even though a male slave is automatically given his freedom after 6 years, a female slave remained a slave forever.

Men have throughout time viewed women as PROPERTY without any rights. I just posted a few verses from the Bible but the Koran is just as bad.

Remember it wasn't until August 26, 1920 that MEN decided that women had the intelligence and right to VOTE. That was only 93 years ago and it is still a hard slog for women to be treated as equals anywhere in the world especially the US.

And women in America still don't know when to shut up or stop writing novels........

Have you ever really thought about it, I mean hanging s___t. Would it be fresh or dried up?

Politics?

Just another misunderstood youth, I wonder what his major was

Animal Husbandry????

Don't matter what it WAS...his new field of study is the Temporal measurement of the limited time in each day of the human life span. ...it will SEAM much longer now.

Wrong SEAM there...just sayin. *seem*

opps....I guess chit happens....oh dang...wrong @!$%#

Basket Weaving.

GM Tramp. No comment

Apparently Mike you know little about intimidation, coercion an fear. I would imagine he threatened to kill her if she said anything. If he had been abusing her for over a year she would probably have reason to believe that he would carry out his threat and so she kept quiet.

Apparently joemike you know little about TSA security and customs - and mostly satire.

I was pretty pissed after the Broncos lost too. Wouldn't you be if you aint from Baltimore?

He looks like his nickname is either "Bubba" or "D'tony" (Brooklyn accent).

There are thousands of domestic abusers who are intelligent, accomplished and respected in their works lives (until the truth comes out). He's not "stupid", he just grew up learning a different (and incredibly screwed up) set of rules for managing his relationships. The propensity for violence has nothing to do with intelligence.

I'm not at all sure what his status as a college student has to do with this story at all.

Anyone can get into the University of Phoenix and get that peice of paper that replicates a real degree too.

I'm thinkin' there must be a "little" more to the story too!....that also explains the attitude, he suffers from LDS....

It's nowhere near the Middle East...at least insofar as it's on the wrong side of both the Black and the Caspian seas.

You need to look at a map, Reno. And repeat middle school.

Google maps helps, check it out.

Capt and Tracey, you two are the ones that need to repeat middle school. Macedonia borders Greece on the north. The Mediterranean Sea creates the southern border of Greece. The Mediterranean Sea creates the northwest border of the Middle East. Reno is right, Macedonia is close to the Middle East. As thepunisher said, Google maps helps, check it out. (Hopefully he was talking to you two and not reno because if he was he would need a remedial map reading class.)

Just looking at Google maps again and Capt. I must ask do you know where the Caspian Sea is? If you're going from Macedonia to the Mid East you shouldn't even come close to the Caspian Sea.

it's apparently very hard for people to look at a map before making an idiot of themselves, eh capt and tracey?

if macedonia ISNT close to the middle east, then florida ISNT close to the caribbean.

Macedonia is not a middle eastern country, nor does it border it. The discussion of whether it is 'near' the middle east is irrelevant. 'Near' is a subjective term, so arguing about it does not matter. Just because a country is 'near' another country does not make it 'like' it's neighbor. Early to mid 1950's France and Germany come to mind. It's primary religion is Orthodox Christianity. Reno, I would guess that you have no actual experience with knowing the mindset of people in that region. This man in the article is a cruel and controlling man, and he is a violent abuser. They come in all shapes and sizes, nationalities and religions. Your gross generalization is both ignorant and sad at the same time.

If she has only been here a short while and is either not yet naturalized or a newly naturalized citizen, it would be easy for him to convince her she could not stay here without his permission.

And if she has been living with his abuse for a year it is likely she has no means of support other than him. It is difficult for independent American women to understand how even other dependent American women with low self esteem can continue in an abusive relationship rather than leave it, let alone a young woman raised in a culture where submissiveness to a male is the norm.

GM Scremin

Looks like she thought "wife" he thought " hooker"....

GM Scooter.

GM Tramp You seem to be in a bad mood today. Put some Baileys in your coffee. Just kidding. There is going to be someone to blast me for my spelling.

Same class......none

Apparently, she started to show her American-womanness the moment she arrived in America. Belligerent... Whoreish... Stupid... Unfaithful...

woman issues?

I'm thinking sanity issues. Christ.

Im thinking he either;

A. Has issues placeing him much closer to this jerk then a real man.

OR

B. Needs to come out of the closet.

Koatz: "I have never met a woman who hasn't claimed that she was 'abused' by her ex."

But then...you probably don't meet many women outside the locked anger management clinic, do you? Idiot.

Eh, Koatz has got a point there.

Why the assumption of Islam? Most Macedonians are Christian.

How many Christians have arranged marriages?

Many cultures have had arranged marriages for thousands of years. My father was from a christian family. He and his siblings all had arranged marriages both the boys and the girls, his older brother and sister were married to their arranged partner but when it came time for him, he simply told his parents no and married the women of his choosing. He broke the cycle for his first generation American family and community. No one in his family had a pre-arranged marriage after my father took his stand. He was raised in a large community of first and second generation Lebanese, his stand was actually an opening for all of the community of young people to break this cycle and marry whom ever they wanted.

It is obvious that posters on this article need a junior-high geography/history lesson. OK. The Republic of Macedonia, north of Greece, on the list to become a member state of the EU and part of NATO. Historic leader, King Phillip II (I believe, the second) of Macedon was father of Alexander the Great. They are traditionally members of the Orthodox Christian religion, not Islam. Not Middle East, not Arab, not MUSLIM. What is the deal here?

Jim-2326159, read the christian bible and you will find women are considered property and there were many ways a guy could marry a woman without her permission and arranged marriages were the norm as women had no rights. Women were basically owned by their fathers and then their husbands.

Possibly, there was an influx of immigrants from that area during the 90's as a result of the Serbian War (we have a community of them in my city in Upstate NY). He could have come as a child. Or he could be the son of immigrants born in America. I don't really think it's important.

Thank you for knowing basic geography!! So many posters have no idea where Macedonia is! For god's sake, Alexander the Great's father was the one who united Macedon. How has our education standard fallen so far?!

Pick up a demographic study, or just look around you, Muslims are in every country. I have no idea what religion this person claims but just because the wife is from Macedonia does not mean the husband isn't a Muslim. According to the CIA World Factbook about 1/3 of Macedonians are Muslims. I believe Islam is the fastest growing religion in the world so anyone anywhere could be Muslim. That doesn't mean he is Muslim but ethnicity is no longer linked to religion and hasn't been for quite a while. China has more Christians than any other nation, from what I've heard. The US Muslim population is larger than some of the smaller countries in the Middle East. Again, I have no idea what religion he claims, or even if he claims a religion but just because the wife isn't Arabic doesn't mean she, or he, isn't Muslim.

The discussion of this man and his wife's religion has no bearing on what he did to her.Men all around the world commit these types of crimes on their wives and girlfriends and have done so for centuries.It absolutely disgusts me.

Sure, if by mideastern you mean European and by cult you mean Christianity.

BChoozy in KC,You wishing that upon another person puts you on the same level as this guy.People in this country are supposed to be sent to prison for punishment of a crime,not to be abused and tortured.