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Subscribe to RSSMIAMI - A Florida judge has approved the adoption of a 22-month-old baby girl that will list three people as parents on her birth certificate -- a married lesbian couple and a gay man.
The decision ends a two-year paternity fight between the couple and a friend of the women who donated his sperm to father the child but later sought a larger role in the girl's life.
The ruling means the child's birth certificate will include a biological father and both women as parents in an unusual arrangement approved recently by a Miami-Dade Circuit Court judge.
The women, Maria Italiano, 43, and Cher Filippazzo, 38, had made several unsuccessful attempts to become parents using fertility clinics.
They then turned to Italiano's hair dresser, Massimiliano Gerina, and asked if he would provide his sperm for artificial insemination.
"When push came to shove, they figured he would understand the situation," said Kenneth Kaplan, an attorney for the women.
"The mistake they made, however, was there should have been a written document spelling out what his rights and responsibilities were going to be."
According to Filippazzo, the three reached a verbal agreement before Italiano became pregnant. Filipazzo said the agreement meant she would adopt the baby and the two women, a longtime couple, would raise the child together.
But shortly before the baby was born, Gerina decided he wanted to be considered a parent and not a sperm donor. The women disagreed. Under Florida law, sperm donors have no legal rights to children.
Gerina hired a lawyer, setting off nearly two years of legal wrangling.
Under the judge's decision, the two women will have sole parental rights, although Gerina will be allowed to visit the child. He will not be expected to provide child support.
"We're trying to do the right thing for Emma," Filippazzo said. "We want Emma to have it all, and we believe by doing it this way, including him in a birthday or Thanksgiving, it'll be a nice addition for her."
"We believe the best interest for Emma is for him to have a role in her life, but not as a parent," she said. "The role is this is mommy's good friend who helped your moms have you because they wanted you so badly."
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If nature had meant for homosexuality to be the norm, humanity would have ceased centuries ago. We will be back to marrying horses in no time, all in the name of "equal rights". We're doomed.
Something can be "normal" and still be relatively uncommon.
MsKat, are there any other banalities you want to surprise us with today?
Jim, ha, that's all I can muster today.
Mskat - no it can't. Not when there is a much larger normal in the house. The very definition of normal and uncommon are completely opposite.
Homosexuality is not normal. I'm not saying it is evil, or wrong, or whatever. But statistically AND biologically it is not normal.
Sad and pathetic.
Shame on the judge for allowing this and shame on you 3 irresponsible adults for putting your selfish selves above the welfare of the child.
This was not about what was in the best interest of the baby, this was about what was best for the selfish parents and their own self glory. As a result of this, the child will be teased for it will be abnormal and the parents get the pat on the back. What a foolish judge and foolish parents. Another child set up for Hell.
This kid will live a life of horror, misery and shame and probably end up committing suicide at a very young age, he is cursed from this day forward.
That judge just gave this kid a life of misery and a death sentence all rolled up into one!
Another victim of HOMOSEXUALITY! Just like the Catholic Church and the BSA!
The very first comment confirmed my fears that the haters and bigots would come out of the woodwork. Get ready for some major conservative and right-wing backlash.
Haters and Bigots? When 98% of the entire population of the world condemn "HOMOSEXUALITY" as a revolting, disgusting lifestyle and you have the audacity to call us Bigots for disagreeing with your twisted sexual deviancy and your love of SODOMY?
Mercy. Read the article below. Google it if you like. Dont give me that craaaap about, that's a pedophile not a homosexual! BS! They both go HAND IN HAND! Its proves that they have "BROKEN MINDS"
BOY SCOUT LEADER CHARGED WITH SODOMIZING SCOUT
Organization faces vote on policy for homosexuals
A former Boy Scout leader has been charged with sodomizing a boy in his troop who was under the age of 13.
News of the indictment Monday by a grand jury in Charlottesville, Va., comes as the Boy Scouts of America faces a vote tomorrow by its executive board that could reverse the iconic organization’s century-old policy of barring homosexuals from its ranks.
David Watkins, 49, was arrested Nov. 28 in Charlottesville, Va., where he works as CEO of Watkins Computer Services. Watkins founded Keswick Troop 1028 in 2002 and was its scoutmaster until 2008.
The abuse took place in 2005, according to court documents, but the victim, now an adult, waited several years before coming forward, reported WHSV-TV in Harrisonburg, Va.
what's the matter shove? Sorry it wasn't YOU?
Fork - Go ask one of the three people on your birth certificate about it. Unless someone abstains you should be able to get a majority opinion on it...
Kraig,
get back in your trailer and shut the door, big boy!
I can't help but thinking that all the attitudes of the past few decades are now running amok.
If it feels good do it.
The "me" generation.
I'm ok you're ok.
We have gotten to the point that EVERYTHING is ok and if you don't agree you are a bigot. Doomed, I say.
You're doomed because you're a bigot or because some idiot says you're a bigot?
Can you imagine being cursed into the world like this? Anyone want to bet the kid grows up bisexual? Brainwashed into thinking that having sex with anything is perfectly OK? What a sick, twisted world we live in.
only as sick as you choose to portray it. Oh, but that's right - we all have to conform to YOUR ideals (and frogs need to grow wings so they won't bump their tender widdle a$$es when they JUMP, too.) the world just loves an opinionated anal retentive, don't they shove?
Fork, the only thing being portrayed here is nature. Nature isn't an ideal - it's just the way it is. Except, of course, for all the nonsense that ISN'T but we pretend it is anyway, like three adults on a birth certificate. You don't have to conform to nature if you don't want to, but then that makes you unnatural...deal with it.
My two closest friends are lesbian, they have been raising a boy since he was 7 months old and his mother abandoned him. He is definitely not confused about his orientation. They legally adopted him when he was 10, he is 15 now.
I guess the role I played in my kids' lives (father) doesn't mean squat, because apparently having no father in your life doesn't hinder you in the least from "having it all". I'm going to have to confirm that with my kids, and I'll get back to you.
This is just too silly for words...no wonder poor kids nowadays are so confused. They have to explain blended families, same sex families and now, 3 parent families. Whatever happened to a father and mother.
Some of the replies here are almost as ridiculous as the story itself. And the judge ruling as he did is just the icing on the cake.
Then it isn't a birth certificate. It is a title like to a car or other property. A birth certificate is supposed to list the biological parents, a man and a woman, not a laundry list of people who wish to have some place in the child's life.
Mark my words, this kid is going to end up screwed up, and likely be the next Sandy Hook shooter or worse.
What a mess we humans make of things, all in the name of our precious choices!
so jerry - in the case of a nonny moose as a sperm donor, who gets to be "father"... last time that supposedly happened the girl claimed she was virgin... IT'S a LEGAL document gives the names of those who are registered as the parents (whether they physically ARE or ARE NOT - immaterial
I wonder, from a purely legal point of view, if a judge can alter a birth certificate to include three adults on it? I don't know that there is a standard birth certificate out there (I'm sure they are different at least a little bit from state to state), but if there is any law mandating a certain minimum infotmation on them then wouldn't it be up to the legislative branch to alter the form? I've never seen one with space for three adults to be listed.
If anyone is a legal mind maybe they can share their opinion on the legal aspect of that...
Three adults on a birth certificate...seriously.
Unless he donated through a sperm bank (which I doubt since he knows he is the father), how is the gay man allowed to get out of child support for the rest of his life? There are volumes of cases of men that donated sperm/fathered a child for lesbian couples who were subsequently sued for child support...and they had to pay it. What mkaes this guy so special?
he just WANTS to be - he IS after all their HAIR DRESSER....
Fork - That gave me a good chuckle. Well played.
Nine-year-old girl who gave birth in Mexico will never have another child after doctors sterilize her against her mother's wishes the child's wishes are irrelevant.
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2275182/EXCLUSIVE-Nine-year-old-girl-gave-birth-Mexico-child-doctors-sterilize-her-mothers-wishes.html#axzz2KK3dHnK0
This story of what happened to this little girl is wrong. Her mom robbed her by not protecting her, as a result she will not have normal play with kids her age, then society robbed her and said it was the 9 year old girls fault and she is to be held responsible for the rest of her life for being raped. Society in Mexico said she will never be a birth mom again.
I basically see the GLBT's and courts doing the same thing to this child in Florida. They have chose for this child not to be in anyway normal and because of the selfishness of all 3 parents, the child gets to explain why the child has 3 parents on the birth certificate when the rest of society has two.
Society through the government abused the girl in mexico and soceity through the government just abused this child, for the pretense of normacy. Has anyone asked what about the babies rights and the long term results. You and I don't have to live with this, the kid does and the child was not given a choice by the judge or the 3 parents.
I don't care if your GLBT's or heterosexual, if you are going to be a parent. Consider the long term results on a child while making self motivated decisions, or don't be a parent if you are to selfish to do that.
dumb attempt at analogy - underage reproductive children getting sterilized is NOTHING to do with this. First off it's MEXICO, second, IF the kid got pregnant ONCE, there is a good chance it will happen again. Getta you head outa you anal orifice.
"This is Mommy's good friend"? No, Emma, this is your father. Good grief!
I'm a proud liberal and a proud supporter of gay rights, including the right to marry. I am not, however, a supporter of saying that up is down and down is up just to indulge someone's image of herself. Dishonesty is always destructive, and always wrong, and this lesbian couple is wallowing in it.
By the way, marriage is not a right. It's a section of the tax code. Like a driver's license or a business license or any other license you can get, if you meet the requirements and pay your fee to the government, you can get one. In some states that means any two people, in some states it doesn't. Obtaining a license is not considered a right according to the Supreme Court...
so wilmer how is it any different from "I can't tell you who your daddy is - I never MET him - just his precious bodily fluids." At least she will know THE MALE HALF WHO STARTED HER
Does this mean that rapist's names must be listed on birth certificates in the new far right Republican world?
Wrong discussion. Wrong article.
Bicfi - And if you bothered to read the comments, there are many people of the liberal persuasion who think this is wrong. And many on the conservative side (like me) who would say the same thing if this was a hetero couple with a sperm donor.
Most of us get that this ruling really defies common sense. Since you don't see that, I think we can deduce the amount of common sense coursing through your veins...
The man is her father and she should know that. At some point in the child's life she will understand that she has a father. Someone's sperm led to her birth. That is the man's biological daughter and she should know that. These women are selfish and foolish.
I may be in the minority in my views about parenthood, and they have nothing to do with writings in ancient holy books by anonymous authors. I really don't know - does anyone? - whether homosexuality is inborn (genetic) or caused by environment or conditioning. I am absolutely in favor of homosexual couples having legally-recognized bonds, with all of the tax, visitation and inheritance rights that married couples do. And I make no judgments about any sexual activities between two consenting adults.
But a homosexual couple is, by the constraints of simple biology, a sterile couple. Two men can't make a child, neither can two women. They should accept this as a result of their lifestyle. No law or authority can make them homosexual; they either are by choice or by fate. I believe male children need a father, and a female child needs a mother, and both have a more complete environment with dual-sex parents.
Sometimes one or both parties in a lesbian coupling decide she wants a child. To get pregnant, she must go outside her lesbian relationship to obtain the sperm from a male, which is, after all, what nature requires for the fertilization of an egg. I'm not talking about what some holy book claims, but the obvious design of nature. Reproduction requires dual-sex intercourse. To love only another woman, and being repulsed or turned off by a male, yet claiming the right to be a mother, is like eating your cake and still expecting to have it. So one of the women in a lesbian relationship gets sperm, by whatever means, and thus has a child to raise in the lesbian union. Can gay men do something like this? Of course not, because it takes the eggs and the uterus to bear and birth a baby. So, the lesbian couples are demanding, as their right, something a gay male couple cannot have. I don't see this as fair or just.
As a hetero who has been married twice and had offspring from both marriages, I feel rather strongly that reproduction is something that should be reserved for the kind of union that nature obviously intended. We might apply the Universal Imperative and ask, what would be the result if all other people were homosexual? They would either have to be unfaithful to their emotional bond, or the human race would cease to exist.
I have no wish to deny homosexuals their rights, but I do not feel that their rights extend to the artificial creation of a child. Bearing a child is uncomfortable for the mother, painful in the delivery, and, especially when the child is an adolescent, often heartbreaking. And as adults, offspring can often turn on their parents or be huge disappointments. There are straight couples who voluntarily decide not to have children. In an overpopulated world, this is even commendable. That being said, why must lesbian couples demand the "right" to bear children when it requires them to betray their own union to do so? Whether she has sex with a man, or gets the sperm from a man, she is still going outside her relationship, and she knows full well she has to, because a same-sex couple is naturally sterile.
Ron - I've often tried to bring up the subject of the cause of homosexuality, or even if there can be more than one. But every time I do I get blasted by those who either don't care or are afraid of the possible truth. Pyschologists insist it can't be environmental, although there has never really been a comprehensive study on the issue. Many believe you are born that way, but again without any real scientific study done I don't know if that is conclusive. No one dares broach the subject despite the amazing advances in genetics and discoveries in the biomechanics of the brain over the last 15 years.
Homosexuals fear that any such study will be a facade for oppression, and I can understand that concern. But a real study of the topic could be done, and done without disrespecting anyone, if only we could get past the PC barriers that exist.
I enjoyed your post.
Where did you get that idea?
There have been LOTS of studies on the origins of sexual orientation. The current thinking is that it's largely determined by epigenetics and the prenatal hormone environment, with a possible but lesser early influence by the post-natal environment.
The two main problems with getting a definitive answer are:
1) it's likely a complex interaction between genetics, epigenetics, prenatal hormones, and environment (and thus different for each individual).
2) there's no practical or ethical way to perform a controlled experiment on human sexual development.
Utterly ridiculous! How can we have such stupid judges??
incredible - how can we have such opinionated people babbling about items that aren't THEIR CONCERN?
This world is getting more phucked up by the day...
This is dumb. I dont care who WANTS to be the kids parent.. a birth certificate should have listed who is the BLOOD parents of the child. I dont want my father on mine but he is there cause he is BLOOD related to me. To start listing non blood relatives is dumb and can confuse things down the road.. Birth certificates are used to look up family and blood relatives NOT people that want to be related... This is one thing that should have the biological father and biological mother on it... end of story.. NOW other than that how they want to raise their kids is up to them. id doesnt matter
Nah.... your thinking is too narrow... nowadays it's whoever wants to be!
so you want to list the birth mother and the donor? (which isn't the "usual" legal part of listing "parents")
Why not throw an entire gang bang in there? It's only a birth certificate!
So after two years of legal wrangling and associated expenses.... ""We're trying to do the right thing for Emma," says Cher Filippazzo.
Come on parents. YOU didn't even consider the fact that this child will need a father to help raise it. NOT until you were pressured and ordered by the courts?
THANKS for wasting taxpayer dollars on YOUR FAILURE TO NEGOTIATE AND PLAN a life for this child.
What a bunch of boobs without brains!! Losers...
Poor kid. Can you image when "Jimmy" or "Sally" grows up and tries to explain who his/her parents are? How about the rest of his/her life!!!
Whose your daddy?... WHOSE your daddy....???
""We believe the best interest for Emma is for him to have a role in her life, but not as a parent," she said. "The role is this is mommy's good friend who helped your moms have you because they wanted you so badly."
OK... This kid is going to be officially screwed up by that explanation. He's your daddy... but he isn't your parent... (WTF?).
These women really phucked up this kids life...
wanna BET that 15 years from now the kid won't CARE?
And because they decided in themselves not to know God, God handed them over to
a worthless mind so that they would be doing whatever is inappropriate Romans 1:28
9Do you not know
that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither
the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor
homosexual offenders 10nor thieves
nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the
kingdom of God. 11And that is
what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were
justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
Sexual Immorality
12“Everything is
permissible for me”—but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible
for me”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13“Food for the
stomach and the stomach for food”—but God will destroy them both. The body is
not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
14By his power
God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15Do you not
know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the
members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not
know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For
it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”b 17But he who
unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.
18Flee from
sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who
sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not
know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have
received from God? You are not your own; 20you were
bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Evangelicals quoting scriptures to justify their prejudice just muddies up the waters. There are valid secular reasons for objecting to homosexual attempts to go outside their sexual orientation to artificially create a child.
Take your holy babble, written by unknown authors thousands of years ago, and copied by hand by unknown scribes through the centuries and translated and revised who knows how many times, and put it to rest. Use your head to make an argument, not just parrot something written for a small Semitic tribe, long ago and far away.
I'm agreeable to you taking your brainwashing down the road and babbling at someone who really gives a F U C K. Flying Spaghetti Monster will just love you unconditionally - unlike your militant sky daddy
An unnatural relationship followed by three parents on a birth certificate. "Crazy" has just gone full circle.